How To Improve Your Mindset & Reinvent Your Life In 2025
In this episode of The School of Greatness, Rangan Chatterjee discusses finding the right balance between expert guidance and personal intuition in life decisions. He outlines the importance of self-awareness and shares insights from his own journey of overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, while explaining how modern life triggers stress responses that can impact health.
Chatterjee presents practical approaches for managing stress, including specific breathing techniques and the power of physical touch. He and host Lewis Howes examine why many people struggle to maintain lasting changes in their lives, exploring how addressing root causes rather than surface-level behaviors leads to sustainable transformation. The discussion includes exercises for aligning daily habits with core values and creating meaningful life changes.
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Self-Trust and Inner Awareness
Rangan Chatterjee explores the delicate balance between expert advice and personal intuition. While acknowledging the value of expert insights, Chatterjee emphasizes that individuals must ultimately trust their inner wisdom to determine which advice serves them best. Lewis Howes supports this view, suggesting that while learning from experts is valuable, people should listen to their body, mind, and heart when making decisions.
Chatterjee recommends dedicating the first thirty minutes of each day to offline solitude, allowing for enhanced self-awareness and better understanding of personal needs. He shares his own journey of overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, illustrated through his relationship with his wife and his decision to take breaks from activities he enjoyed, emphasizing the importance of authentic living over conforming to others' expectations.
The Mind-Body Connection and Managing Stress
Chatterjee highlights how modern life triggers constant stress responses that can lead to serious health issues. He reveals that according to a 2013 Journal of the American Medical Association editorial, up to 90% of doctor visits may be stress-related.
To address this, Chatterjee introduces practical stress-management techniques, including the "3 F's" exercise for understanding emotional triggers, and the "three four five breath" technique for activating the relaxation response. He also emphasizes the power of consensual touch, explaining how specific nerve fibers respond positively to gentle stroking, reducing stress levels for both the giver and receiver.
Lasting Habit Change and Personal Growth
Chatterjee and Howes discuss why sustainable change often proves elusive, with Howes noting that 88% of people abandon their New Year's resolutions within weeks. Chatterjee emphasizes that lasting transformation requires understanding the root causes of behaviors rather than just modifying actions.
Drawing from his television series experiences, Chatterjee illustrates how addressing underlying issues can lead to improved health outcomes. He advocates for adopting a learner's mindset and suggests using the "Write Your Own Happy Ending" exercise to align daily habits with core values and life goals. This approach, he explains, helps create natural behavior changes that move people closer to their desired life outcomes.
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- Trusting inner wisdom is important, but expert advice is often based on extensive research and experience that individuals may lack.
- Listening to one's body, mind, and heart is subjective and may not always lead to the best decisions, especially in complex situations where emotional biases can mislead.
- Dedicating the first 30 minutes of each day to offline solitude may not be feasible for everyone, especially those with demanding schedules or caregiving responsibilities.
- Overcoming people-pleasing tendencies is beneficial, but it's also important to maintain a balance between self-interest and the needs of others in relationships.
- While stress is a significant factor in health issues, attributing up to 90% of doctor visits to stress may oversimplify the complex etiology of health conditions.
- Stress-management techniques are useful, but they may not be effective for everyone, and some individuals may require professional support to manage their stress.
- The benefits of consensual touch in stress reduction are well-documented, but it's not a universal solution and may not be appropriate or comfortable for all individuals.
- Understanding the root causes of behaviors is crucial, but changing deep-seated habits often requires more than insight, including external support and sometimes professional intervention.
- Addressing underlying issues can lead to improved health outcomes, but it's not always clear what the underlying issues are, and some health conditions may not be directly related to lifestyle or psychological factors.
- Adopting a learner's mindset is valuable, but it's also important to recognize when expertise is needed and to seek out guidance rather than relying solely on self-directed learning.
- The "Write Your Own Happy Ending" exercise may help align habits with values, but real-life constraints and unforeseen circumstances can often disrupt or derail these plans.
Actionables
- You can create a "Wisdom Journal" where you document daily decisions and the outcomes, noting when you followed your intuition versus external advice. This practice will help you see patterns in your decision-making and trust your inner wisdom more. For example, if you decide to skip an event to rest and find you're more productive the next day, that's a point for trusting your gut.
- Develop a "Mind-Body-Heart Check-in" routine where, before making any significant decision, you pause and assess your thoughts, physical sensations, and emotions. You might use a simple chart or app to rate your state in each area on a scale from 1 to 10, which can help you make more balanced choices.
- Initiate a "Touch Exchange" with a close friend or family member where you agree to incorporate consensual, stress-reducing touch into your interactions, like hugs or a pat on the back. Keep a shared log to note any changes in stress levels over time, fostering a mutual understanding of the benefits of physical connection.
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Self-Trust and Inner Awareness
Rangan Chatterjee speaks on the importance of self-trust and inner awareness, sharing insights from his life and discussions with various individuals on how to navigate personal growth and authenticity.
Trust Your Intuition, Recognize Limits of Expertise
Chatterjee delves into the complexities of navigating the sea of expert advice available in today's society.
Experts Offer Insights, but Individuals Must Decide the Right Advice Using Their Own Wisdom and Experience
He acknowledges the paradox of being an expert who understands that no one expert knows what is right for everyone. Chatterjee advises individuals to listen to experts but to also trust their intuition and inner wisdom to determine which advice is right for them, rather than seeking a universal solution. Similarly, Lewis Howes discusses the importance of learning to trust oneself, suggesting that while learning from experts is important, one must listen to their own needs and take action based on their intuition and what their body, mind, or heart is telling them.
Cultivate Self-Knowledge Through Daily Solitude and Reflection
Mindfulness and Self-Examination Reveal Your True Needs and Values
Chatterjee mentions that his dedication to self-knowledge is reflected in his preparation for podcast guests and advocates for solitude as a daily practice. He recommends spending the first half-hour of the day offline to ground oneself and enhance self-awareness. This solitude enables individuals to listen to their body's signals, trust themselves more, and truly understand their needs and values.
Overcome the Tendency To People-Please and Live Authentically
Shedding the Need to Conform Allows Choices T ...
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- Trusting intuition over expert advice can sometimes lead to poor decision-making, especially in areas where specialized knowledge is crucial.
- Intuition can be biased by past experiences, emotions, and cognitive distortions, which may not always lead to the best outcomes.
- The recommendation for daily solitude and reflection may not be practical or beneficial for everyone, as some individuals may find that social interaction or active engagement with the world is more conducive to their personal growth.
- Mindfulness and self-examination, while valuable, are not the only methods to reveal one's true needs and values; external feedback and interaction with the world can also provide significant insights.
- The concept of living authentically and not people-pleasing can sometimes conflict with social and professional obligations, where compromise and diplomacy are necessary.
- The idea that offense is often du ...
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- You can create a "Self-Trust Journal" where you document decisions made by following your intuition and the outcomes. This practice will help you see patterns in how your intuition guides you and reinforce your confidence in trusting your inner voice. For example, write down a decision you made without seeking external advice, how you felt about it, and what the result was. Over time, you'll have a personal record of your intuitive successes and learning experiences.
- Develop a "Daily Solitude Ritual" by setting aside a specific time each day for quiet reflection without any distractions. Use this time to check in with yourself, asking questions like "What do I need today?" or "What values are guiding my choices?" This could be as simple as spending 10 minutes with your morning coffee in silence or taking a short walk alone after lunch.
- Initiate a "Values Clarification Challenge" where, for one week, you make all ...
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The Mind-Body Connection and Managing Stress
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee highlights the significant impact of stress on physical health and discusses strategies for managing stress to improve overall well-being.
Chronic Stress Drives Health Issues
Chatterjee explains that while stress responses were once crucial for survival in the face of immediate dangers, modern life wrongly activates these responses on a daily basis. Constant activation of the stress response can lead to chronic health issues such as fatigue, weight gain, and serious conditions including type 2 diabetes and heart disease.
Up to 90% of Doctor Visits Are Stress-Related
Highlighting the link between stress and health, Chatterjee reveals that 80 to 90% of doctor visits may be stress-related, according to a 2013 Journal of the American Medical Association editorial. This statistic underscores the varied effects of stress on every organ system in the body.
Self-Awareness of Emotional Triggers Reduces Harmful Stress Responses
Chatterjee underscores the importance of identifying the emotional triggers behind behaviors such as eating. He discusses the "3 F's" exercise, which involves recognizing what one is feeling at the moment ("Feel"), understanding how food is used in response to that feeling ("Feed"), and finding alternative behaviors to deal with the emotion ("Find"). This self-awareness can fundamentally change one's relationship with stress triggers.
Adopt Stress Management Practices: Breathwork, Touch, Gratitude
Chatterjee offers practical stress-reduction practices like yoga, journaling, and breathwork. He emphasizes that breathwork is often overlooked yet powerful. He explains the "three four five breath" technique, which can activate the relaxation response and reduce stress by signaling to the brain that there's no danger present.
3-4-5 Breathing Activates Relaxation; Consensual Touch Releases Calming Neurochemicals
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- While stress can indeed lead to various health issues, not all cases of fatigue, weight gain, type 2 diabetes, and heart disease are directly caused by stress; genetics, lifestyle choices, and environmental factors also play significant roles.
- The statistic that 80 to 90% of doctor visits may be stress-related could be misleading or outdated, as it is based on a 2013 editorial and may not reflect current trends or consider all contributing factors to doctor visits.
- Self-awareness and identifying emotional triggers are important, but they may not be sufficient for everyone; some individuals may require professional help or medical intervention to manage their stress effectively.
- The "3 F's" exercise is a useful tool, but it may not address deeper psychological issues or mental health disorders that could be causing stress-related behaviors.
- Breathwork and other suggested stress management practices are beneficial, but they may not work for everyone, and some individuals may find other methods more effective.
- The "three four five breath" technique's effectiveness can vary from person to person, and some may not experience the intended relaxation response.
- The benefits of con ...
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- Create a stress diary to pinpoint specific stressors and your reactions to them, noting the time, context, and your emotional state when stress arises. This can help you identify patterns and triggers outside of the "3 F's" exercise, allowing for more targeted stress management strategies.
- Develop a "touch schedule" with friends or family members, where you plan regular, comforting physical interactions like hugs or hand-holding. This can help ensure you're both giving and receiving affectionate touch, which can be especially beneficial if you live alone or have a limited social circle.
- Start a "gratitude jar" where you write ...
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Lasting Habit Change and Personal Growth
Rangan Chatterjee, Lewis Howes, and others delve into the reasons behind the struggle to maintain lasting changes and offer insights on achieving true transformation that endures beyond a few weeks or months.
Sustainable Change Requires Understanding Root Causes of Behaviors
Behavior Modification Without Addressing Causes Leads to Relapse
As the new year begins, Chatterjee explains why it's difficult for most people to maintain lasting changes. He emphasizes that truly transformative changes last beyond just a few weeks or months. Chatterjee shares his personal journey following his father's death, which led to his realization that he was a people pleaser for much of his life. This exploration into his emotions and triggers revealed the underlying issues that led to his behaviors.
Lewis Howes notes that 88% of people who set New Year's resolutions fail within the first few weeks, highlighting the challenge of making lasting changes. Chatterjee agrees, suggesting that changes often don't last because people do not address the underlying reasons behind their habits. By focusing solely on behavioral modifications, the changes conflict with their current state of life, leading to relapse.
Chatterjee questions why patients come to see him at a particular time, implying that something significant must have prompted them to seek help. His experience has shown that addressing the root issues that affect health leads to not only improved wellness but also to better happiness and the quality of relationships.
He shares his experiences from his television series, where he helped individuals by living with them and directly observing their lifestyles to identify the root causes of their symptoms. Chatterjee gives the example of a patient whose high blood pressure did not improve with diet and lifestyle changes alone. It took addressing an unresolved personal issue—her divorce following her ex-husband's infidelity—to see an improvement in her health.
Cultivate Openness and Willingness to Learn From Experiences
Embrace a Learner's Mindset: Grow From Feedback and Challenges
To make lasting changes, Chatterjee talks about the need to not only recognize why personal behaviors are as they are but also to move beyond blaming to understanding triggers and reactions, in order to process them and move on. Chatterjee encourages adopting a learner's mindset, asking what one can learn from each situation.
He discusses handling criticism by creating a gap between stimulus and response, learning to see if there is truth in the criticism, or understanding that the critic might just be having a bad day. This viewpoint assists in personal growth, better habit formation, and ultimately contributes to cultivating an inner calm.
Chatterjee also mentions that letting go of the past is vital to moving forward, a concept that ties into the idea that understanding underlying reasons for a behavior is crucial for lasting change. The "3 F's" Exercise, which explores emotional drivers of behaviors like eating, suggests that sustainable behavior change requires addressing internal motivations.
Design Life Around Deepest Values and Priorities
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- While understanding root causes is important, some argue that focusing too much on the past can hinder progress in the present.
- Behavior modification techniques can be effective on their own for some individuals, without delving into underlying causes.
- Significant events may prompt people to seek help, but sometimes subtle, less dramatic life changes can also inspire the pursuit of personal growth.
- Observing lifestyles to identify root causes can be beneficial, but privacy concerns and practicality must be considered.
- A learner's mindset is valuable, but there must be a balance to avoid overanalyzing or becoming overly self-critical.
- Creating a gap between stimulus and response is useful, but in some situations, immediate reactions are necessary and appropriate.
- Letting go of the past is not always possible or desirable, as past experiences can shape identity and values in positive ways.
- Internal motivations are important, but external factors such as environment, social support, and resources also play a significant role in behavior change.
- Living in alignment with values is ideal, but there may be ti ...
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- You can track your emotional triggers by keeping a journal to understand the root causes of your behaviors. Each time you notice a habit you want to change, write down what happened right before you engaged in that behavior. This can help you identify patterns and underlying reasons for your actions. For example, if you find yourself snacking late at night, you might discover it's often after watching certain types of TV shows that make you feel anxious or bored.
- Create a personal values chart to align your daily actions with your deeper goals. Start by listing your top five values and then map out activities that embody these values. This could be as simple as valuing health and scheduling a daily walk or valuing learning and setting aside time each day to read a book related to personal development. The key is to make sure your actions are directly tied to what you truly value.
- Develop a habit adjustment plan to refine your goals without feeling guilty. When you ...
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