The Mel Robbins Podcast takes a closer look at the art of decluttering with guest Dana K. White. White and Robbins distinguish between decluttering—the removal of unnecessary belongings—and organizing, which often redistributes clutter into "prettier" arrangements.
The conversation explores the concept of a personal "clutter threshold"—the amount of possessions one can manage without feeling overwhelmed. White outlines a straightforward 5-step decluttering process for gradually reducing belongings, from identifying obvious trash to eliminating temporary piles. Robbins and White discuss how decluttering benefits mental health by reducing cognitive load, improving focus, and creating a sense of calm control over one's environment.
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According to Dana K. White and Mel Robbins, decluttering and organizing are distinct concepts. While organizing involves neatly arranging items using products like bins (often leading to more clutter), decluttering focuses on removing unnecessary belongings to create functional space.
Rather than redistributing clutter into "prettier" arrangements, genuine decluttering transforms a space by reducing the quantity of possessions and making everything accessible without shifting things around. As Robbins explains, even well-organized clutter is still clutter. Decluttering clears the mind and brings control into life.
White introduces the idea of a personal "clutter threshold" - the unique level of belongings each individual can manage without feeling overwhelmed. Exceeding this threshold leads to chaos. Determining one's threshold is an ongoing process of decluttering then observing how much stuff can be comfortably maintained.
The mere presence of excess belongings contributes to cognitive load, so regular decluttering is key to staying within your personal clutter threshold.
White outlines a 5-step process to declutter without becoming overwhelmed:
Robbins and White explain how decluttering reduces mental and emotional stress by improving focus and creating a sense of calm control. White recounts how decluttering transformed her home from feeling overwhelming to manageable.
Robbins notes clutter overloads the brain, while decluttering eliminates this cognitive burden, allowing one to appreciate belongings without subconscious angst. Decluttering is about creating space for what truly matters and accepting present reality rather than striving for an ideal.
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Many people mistake the terms decluttering and organizing as interchangeable, but they embody distinct concepts and outcomes in the context of managing space.
Organizing involves buying products and striving for a neat, Instagram-perfect look, often leading to more purchases that contribute to clutter. Dana K. White argues that this effort does not truly address the underlying issue: the excessive items overcrowding our spaces. Mel Robbins shares this view, recognizing that purchasing bins does not solve the root problem of clutter.
White and Robbins both initially believed that organization was about bins, boxes, systems, and making things match social media aesthetics. But they came to realize that this approach often just redistributes the existing stuff into prettier arrangements without reducing the actual quantity.
Decluttering, on the other hand, is the act of removing unnecessary items. White points out that decluttering allows for a real transformation without even considering organization. It creates a functional space where everything is accessible without shifting other items around. Decluttering is about creating space for peace and the things you actually use and love, not about achieving a certain look or purchasing more containers.
Robbins explains that while the brain may crave organization to cope with being overwhelmed, decluttering—in essence, hitting delete on the overwhelming stuff—is the true solution. Even well-organized clutter is still clutter, as she illustrates with the tale of a jar of unused watercolor pencils that traveled from her house to her office.
Decluttering is not about comprehensive tidying or making a space resemble an Instagram post. Rather, it's an act that clears the mind and brings control into life. It's not about perfection or the right storage solu ...
The Difference Between Decluttering and Organizing
Dana K. White introduces the idea of a "clutter threshold" — the unique level of belongings that each individual can keep under control without feeling overwhelmed.
Recognizing your clutter threshold is crucial in maintaining a sense of order and avoiding the chaos that comes from overaccumulation. White points out that if your space regularly descends into disorder, it's an indicator that you have more items than you can manage. This varies from person to person, as demonstrated when two different people might buy the same items, but only one struggles to keep their home organized.
Mel Robbins adds to the conversation by emphasizing that determining your personal clutter threshold is a hands-on process. To find out what amount of belongings is right for you, you must start decluttering. Continual feelings of being overwhelmed or a space that keeps getting out of control are signs that you're living above your clutter threshold.
Additionally, the clutter thres ...
The concept of a "clutter threshold" and understanding your personal limits
Dana K. White introduces a 5-step decluttering process that aims to reduce the overwhelm and emotional exhaustion associated with organizing one's space.
Dana K. White emphasizes the importance of removing obvious trash as the first step in decluttering. She recommends using a black trash bag for this so you can't see what's been discarded, avoiding second-guessing the decision to throw something away. This step involves no decisions or emotions, making it easier to get started and creating immediate visible progress.
After disposing of the trash, White suggests moving on to the "easy stuff"—items that already have a designated place. If an item isn’t trash but is out of place and you know where it goes, she advises to put it away immediately instead of creating piles, which could lead to more clutter.
To streamline the decluttering process, Dana K. White advocates for having a box labeled 'donate' ready for items you choose to give away. Choose a box you don’t want back and refrain from decorating it, which can prevent the urge to keep it. Storing the donation box in a place like the garage keeps it accessible and out of the way.
Dana K. White suggests these instinct-based questions to help decide on keeping or discarding an item. By considering the first place you’d instinctively look for something, you can fi ...
Dana White's 5-step decluttering process
Mel Robbins and Dana K. White discuss the profound effects of decluttering, not just on the cleanliness of a space, but on emotional and mental well-being, suggesting that clearing physical clutter can lead to improved focus, and create a sense of calm and control.
Mel Robbins explains how clutter has a significant impact on both our physical surroundings and our mental state. She describes the burden of walking into a cluttered room, highlighting that clutter can cause stress, self-criticism, and lead to avoidance of social situations due to fear of judgment. By decluttering, one can take back control and transform their living space from a source of stress to one of peace and manageability.
Dana K. White concurs, having experienced firsthand how decluttering transformed her house's appearance and functionality. She emphasizes that decluttering makes a space manageable, which directly contrasts the feeling of being overwhelmed by clutter.
Robbins also relates the act of decluttering to brain function, noting that too many items can overload the brain, making it difficult to process information. Consequently, decluttering helps to eliminate this overload and reduce the overwhelm. Additionally, Robbins stresses that ignoring clutter does not eliminate the subconscious cognitive load it places on us; conversely, addressing clutter directly can help one feel more at peace and in control.
The discussion also notes that decluttering creates more than just physical space – it creates space for peace, focus, and allows you to appreciate and use things you love. It can also positively influence the family dynamic by altering the household's overall attitude towards clutter and possessions.
When discussing her five-step decluttering process, White points out that avoiding emotional decision-making is key. Emotions often create barriers to decluttering, as people form sentimental attachments to items representing aspirations, past identities, or sentimental value. White suggests starting with non-emotional items, all ...
The emotional and mental benefits of decluttering
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