In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, hospice physician Dr. Zack Bush shares profound insights from working with the dying, as he and Mel Robbins explore the transformative nature of near-death experiences and the true essence of the self. Bush recounts how his near-fatal car accident revealed a sense of deep interconnectedness, challenging conventional notions of separateness. They discuss how the dying often regret not living authentically, and how accepting one's innate wholeness frees them from fear and the need to constantly perform.
Robbins and Bush affirm that our essence is one of completeness and unity, evident in moments of awe or the departing soul. They emphasize that directly experiencing this wholeness profoundly impacts how one perceives relationships, life itself, and collective consciousness. The episode examines what it means to let go of striving and simply "be" — embracing the beauty of each present moment from a place of profound acceptance and interconnection.
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Zack Bush recounts how his near-death car accident provided a profound sense of wholeness and interconnectedness, challenging conventional notions of the self. Mel Robbins adds how overcoming fears reconnected her with her essence, reducing her fear of death.
Bush believes these experiences highlight our inherent state of wholeness from birth to death. As Robbins notes, moments of awe and presence can induce similar transcendence. Bush says near-death sensations involve realizing life's perfection and completeness all along.
Bush suggests people develop habits to fill a perceived void, overlooking their innate wholeness. He notes society conditions the feeling of separateness from a young age.
Bush indicates the dying's biggest regret is spending life performing for others, not embracing authenticity. Reconnecting with our wholeness allows simply being, as Robbins found.
Bush observes the number one regret is realizing "I was performing the whole time. I never was actually being me." Many spend life chasing the wrong pursuits.
For Bush, caring for hospice patients showed what freedom from fear, guilt, and shame feels like - a wholeness often witnessed as souls depart bodies.
A death doula tells Robbins the dying often feel peaceful, suggesting rebirth. For Bush, seeing souls return after death hints at consciousness's continuity beyond the body.
Robbins and Bush affirm that regardless of life's details, we are innately whole and interconnected, as evident in a child's gaze or the soul's expression.
Practices like nature immersion help cultivate the direct sense of being intrinsically complete, which Bush says begins deep healing.
Robbins and Bush underscore that accepting your wholeness frees you from striving, allowing you to simply be and appreciate present moments' beauty.
Realizing and living from this completeness, Bush believes, could shift collective consciousness in inspiring ways, transforming relationships and life itself.
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Children are often taught societal norms that emphasize individual achievement over collective well-being, fostering a sense of competition and comparison. This can lead to a belief in personal inadequacy and a disconnect from others, reinforcing the idea of separateness. Social structures like education and media can perpetuate this mindset, shaping how individuals perceive themselves in relation to the world around them.
Zack Bush's recount of his near-death experience following a car accident leads to a broader discussion about the profound effects such events can have on a person's understanding of self and interconnectedness.
Bush's incident, which began with him passing out at the wheel and waking up in an unfamiliar, snow-covered ecosystem, culminated in wholeness and transcendent bliss. He humorously questioned the presence of snow in heaven, signalling a deep, puzzling connection with his environment during this moment outside his physical plane. Beyond logic, Bush felt an overwhelming need for surrender to his path, characterizing near-death experiences as escapes from the mind into deep connection and wholeness. These episodes can occur in everyday moments, such as when the wisdom of a child or elder induces goosebumps, or when observing awe-inspiring natural phenomena, signaling profound soulful communication.
Mel Robbins spoke on how working through fears and reconnecting with herself reduced her fear of dying, empowered her, and connected her to the essence of her being. Similarly, Bush described his incident of passing out for seven minutes, during which he found himself in a universe where fear, guilt, and shame were absent. He felt at one with nature, experiencing a profound transformation in his perspective on life and purpose.
Bush believes these experiences highlight a sense of wholeness and interconnectedness that is not to be aspired to but is an inherent state from birth to death. He describes observing souls showing up as they exit the human mind’s frailties, suggesting that the soul maintains its wholeness and brings back new knowledge to the mind. The sensation of life being perfect and complete all along is a revelation that often comes from near-death experiences, which debunk the misconception of a person's incompleteness, highlighting our yearning to explore the breadth of human emotions and sensations.
Near-death experiences and their transformative effects
Experiences with the dying have offered profound lessons about the nature of existence, the regrets often carried at life’s end, and the mysterious passage from life to what lies beyond. Mel Robbins and Zach Bush share intimate insights from their own encounters with death.
Zach Bush observes a common regret he’s seen among the dying: the realization that they spent too much of their lives performing for others rather than being true to themselves. Bush powerfully articulates this sentiment: "The number one regret is I was performing the whole time. I never was actually being me and I was afraid to be me. I didn't even know what it would feel like to be me. But right now, as I'm dying, as that veil thins and I feel myself, and I'm a beautiful being and I am home.”
Bush indicates that in the face of death, many realize that their pursuits were misplaced, and life was not about the chase.
Bush shares that during his time in hospice care, admitting 80 patients a week, alongside his own near-death experience, he gained an understanding of what it feels like to be free from fear, guilt, and shame. The dying process itself can offer a look into the profound sense of wholeness and completion that exists within the human experience.
Bush speaks of moments where he witnessed the soul making itself known as it departs the frailty of the human body and then ret ...
Insights from working with the dying and witnessing death
In a world that often emphasizes performance and achievement as a means to fulfillment, individuals like Mel Robbins and Zach Bush shed light on the essential nature of self as inherently whole and complete.
Mel Robbins reflects on her relationship with death, stating she no longer fears it due to her sense of wholeness from her life’s accomplishments and the person she has become. Dr. Zach Bush, having experienced the revelation of wholeness during transformative moments and his hospice work, affirms that from birth to death, every person is entirely intact and whole.
Robbins and Bush both acknowledge that regardless of life's appearances, wholeness is intrinsic to our being. While Robbins draws parallels between the wholeness observed in a child's gaze and that at life's end, Bush underscores the divine expression of the soul, which remains whole throughout life.
Both speakers advocate for practices that help cultivate a direct feeling of wholeness. Bush highlights the healing that begins when one allows nature to 'see' them as whole, and he discusses the significance of meeting oneself and falling in love with oneself as a complete being.
Robbins and Bush explore the idea that life is not about performing or achieving, and they offer insights into the profound shift that happens when one stops trying to satisfy external expectations and starts simply being.
Bush shares his realization of bei ...
The True Nature of the Self as Whole and Complete
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