478: Be The Comprehensive Human The Moment Demands. Jason Wilson Pt.2

The concept of the "comprehensive man" challenges traditional views of masculinity by incorporating both typically masculine and so-called "unmasculine" traits.

The Comprehensive Man Embodies Masculine and "Unmasculine" Traits

Jason Wilson advocates for men to embrace a wide array of behaviors, including those traditionally labeled as nurturing and thus "unmasculine." He stresses the importance of actions like combing his mother’s hair or painting her fingernails as facets that build a more understanding and caring character.

The Comprehensive Man Openly Expresses Emotions and Fears, Not Hiding Behind a Facade of Strength

Emotionally, the comprehensive man is someone who doesn't shy away from his emotions or his fears. Wilson discusses being emotionally present for his wife and addressing her emotional wounds through empathetic actions. Similarly, Jocko Willink touches on the valor of discussing fear or nervousness openly, like before going into combat. Furthermore, Wilson addresses the importance of verbal processing, expressing true emotions thoughtfully and openly, irrespective of the societal expectation to maintain an aggressive, stoic front.

Wilson relates the comprehensive man's emotional expression to personal anecdotes, such as managing the emotional weight of his mother’s Alzheimer's disease, showcasing that depth of feeling and nurturing does not detract from one's masculinity. Wilson exemplifies this comprehensive quality by not only participating in his mother's care but being emotionally involved and sacrificial in his care-taking role.

Respectful Men Value Women, Not as Subservient or Sex Objects

A key aspect of the comprehensive man's behavior is his respect for women, valuing their qualities beyond seeing them as subservient beings or sex objects. Wilson emphasizes the importance of being present and responsive in a relationship, rather than subscribing to an ego-driven portrayal of masculinity that prioritizes sexual prowess. Healthy and balanced emotional expressions are crucial, including the wisdom to know when to suppress one’s emotions and when to confront issues directly.

Master Emotions to Prevent Toxicity, Avoid Being a Slave to Thoughts and Feelings

The concept extends to mastery over emotions, which involves understanding the right time for confrontation and when it's more prudent to exercise control. Wilson uses the tale of two men in a road rage incident as a lesson in ego management—avoiding unnecessary confron ...

In discussions about the nuances of parenting, Jocko Willink and Jason Wilson highlight the roles of fathers in fostering trust, safety, and understanding, which are pivotal in building deep family bonds.

Father Fosters Trust and a Safe Learning Space, Not Blind Obedience

Both Willink and Wilson focus on the necessity of building strong relationships with children that are characterized by trust, respect, listening, and care. These relationships allow for a learning space where children can make mistakes and learn from them with their fathers' patient and understanding guidance.

Father Lets Children Err, Then Guides Patiently and Understandingly

Willink and Wilson detail practical approaches to fatherhood, emphasizing the importance of allowing children to have their space and freedom. They stress not responding to their children’s errors with blind obedience, but with understanding and patience. Wilson shares how he offers guidance through challenges and pressures, prioritizing nurturing over enforcing obedience. Willink also trusts his children to make good decisions on their own, citing his approach to curfews and party-going as examples.

Father Fosters Stronger Bonds With Children By Modeling Emotional Openness and Vulnerability Over Stoicism

Wilson talks about sitting with his child to uncover underlying issues which may explain behaviors like frequent messiness or understand reactions to difficult situations such as bullying. Willink and Wilson both reflect on their experiences to demonstrate how expressing emotions like fear, doubt, or hurt can form a stronger connection between parent and child than a stoic demeanor might.

Husband Emulates Christ By Prioritizing Wife's Wellbeing Over Viewing Her As Subservient

Discussing marital relationships, Wilson and Willink touch upon the dynamics of respect and understanding that should ...

The conversation between the hosts reveals a profound understanding that a comprehensive man instills order and discipline not through commands and punishments, but by setting an example in his environments and for the youth.

The Comprehensive Man Ensures Order and Discipline in His Environments

Leaders like Jason Wilson highlight the importance of using things for their intended purpose, such as wearing durags at home and using the dishwasher for cleaning dishes, not storage. Wilson cleans his home and maintains order as a principle, believing in modeling discipline for his children to follow. In personal and professional environments, Jocko Willink emphasizes functional cleanliness, where a space must be usable and not cluttered. He also references the high cleanliness standards for Navy buildings, particularly the quarterdeck. Both Echo Charles and Willink touch on setting cleanliness standards without being overly strict, unless conditions become unsanitary, indicating a balanced approach to discipline.

Man Teaches Practical Skills Like Budgeting, Home Maintenance, and Etiquette to Empower Youth

Jason Wilson has piloted a summer camp that includes core curriculum, etiquette training, financial literacy, and grooming etiquette to empower the youth. He stresses the importance of dining etiquette and shares how it helped him in securing jobs and has enabled young people he has taught to earn scholarships. Wilson emphasizes teaching these skills from a "combat perspective," which makes the learning process engaging.

He also stresses the importance of presentation in work, how professional attire and a clean vehicle instill discipline. To teach practical life skills, Wilson suggests teaching by example, like showing the correct use of a durag or how to neatly make a bed. It's about laying a proper foundation in life, a metaphor for building a solid character.

The Comprehensive Man Prioritizes Self-Care and Wellbeing Over Neglecting His Needs

Leaders show discipline through example, as Wilson exemplifies by showing consideration for his wife's emotional capacity b ...

Public figures Jocko Willink and Jason Wilson highlight the critical role of physical fitness in overall wellbeing, emphasizing the benefits of martial arts, weightlifting, and endurance training.

The Comprehensive Man Values Physical Fitness For Wellbeing

Man Consistently Trains In Martial Arts, Weightlifting, and Endurance

Jocko Willink and Jason Wilson articulate the importance of consistent training in various physical disciplines for maintaining health and fitness. They discuss the camaraderie and mental discipline gained from martial arts training, such as jiu-jitsu, which Willink actively practices. Willink's son's experience at a wrestling camp further exemplifies the value placed on discipline and fitness, as illustrated by completing a 12-mile run with a bad ankle.

Further revealing the rigorous nature of physical readiness, Willink describes the demanding physical requirements during SEAL training, such as four-mile timed runs in full gear. He also mentions high-intensity scenarios like force-on-force training with realistic simulations to push both physical and psychological endurance. Willink asserts that proficiency in specific physical activities like running, swimming, and rope climbs, as well as the strength required for push-ups and squats, is critical and must be consistently developed through training.

Drown-proofing, an intense exercise where one's feet and hands are tied, tests endurance and strength in the water, revealing the comprehensive nature of physical training embraced by proficient individuals. Similarly, Wilson's "fortitude test" in martial arts training, which includes full-contact drills and boxing, demonstrates the emphasis on physical challenges for wellbeing. Both West and Willink express the importance of staying active and continuing to train throughout life.

The Comprehensive Man Fuels His Body With Nutritious Foods and Supplements

Alongside rigorous training, the comprehensive man prioritizes proper nutrition and supplementation to support physical performance. Jocko Willink acknowledges the importance of fueling the body with the right nutrients, recommending products from his brand, Jocko Fuel, including protein, energy drinks, hydration, joint warfare, super krill oil, and creatine.

Both Willink and W ...