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It's easy to dismiss online communities that promote misogynistic views as isolated pockets on the internet. But as Laura Bates argues in Men Who Hate Women, the impact of these groups extends far beyond their digital confines, fueling harassment and violence against women.
This book examines how modern technologies, social media platforms, and influential figures inadvertently contribute to the spread of anti-woman ideologies. Bates delves into the manosphere's disturbing tactics—from pickup artist strategies to cyberbullying—while highlighting concerning connections between digital hate speech and real-world violence.
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Laura Bates reveals how the pick-up artist industry exploits the vulnerabilities and insecurities of men. Many men within these circles, frequently introverted or socially awkward, seek authentic advice to help them overcome obstacles in establishing romantic relationships. However, individuals like Ross Jeffries, who are considered authorities on the art of seduction, promote a deceptive and detrimental approach implying that the challenges faced by men originate not from their behavior but from an intrinsic resistance offered by women. Jeffries assures men that he will teach them methods to surmount these challenges using purported psychological tactics and makes it clear that his compensation depends on their success, underscoring that he will not be paid if they do not succeed in their pursuits of sexual encounters. Bates suggests that pickup artistry offers men a false sense of power and control, which they mistakenly believe will give them an advantage over women when it comes to attraction.
The practice of seduction techniques and abstinence from sexual activity often involves language that reduces women to objects or animals, employing acronyms and terms that strip them of their humanity.
Laura Bates emphasizes that the incel community uses language specifically crafted to dehumanize people. She elucidates that the slang "foids," a shortened form of "female humanoid," is used to dehumanize women, depicting them as entities lacking in awareness and autonomy. The phrase "HBs" refers to a derogatory system that assigns women a numerical value up to ten, reducing their worth to mere physical attractiveness. The terminology is intentionally crafted to estrange men from the idea of gender equality, employing belittling language for grave offenses such as rape and murder, insinuating that such actions are acceptable and commonplace. The manner in which men engage with women is influenced by their participation in online groups, resulting in concerning outcomes.
Discussions about sexual assault and abuse often occur with a disturbing nonchalance, and the glorification of perpetrators within these online spaces, along with the unauthorized sharing of images, trivializes the seriousness of sexual violence.
The author conveys deep discomfort with how these groups have normalized sexual violence. On a variety of online forums, men engage in discussions that blatantly encourage acts of sexual violence and various forms of hostility against women, frequently with no attempts to control or denounce such conduct. Bates references numerous online conversations that encompass attempts to pressure women into certain sexual acts, as well as discussions surrounding the possibility of making rape lawful. Conversations frequently center on the strategies that are most successful in convincing expectant mothers to participate in sexual acts or in offering advice on how to obtain consent. The pervasive beliefs, along with the lack of adequate oversight on these platforms, create a setting in which vulnerable young men increasingly come to believe that engaging in sexually violent behavior is acceptable.
Practical Tips
- You can challenge harmful narratives by starting a peer-led book club focused on literature that empowers women and promotes healthy relationships. Gather a small group of friends or community members to read and discuss books that portray women in diverse, complex roles and that tackle themes of equality and respect. This can reshape perceptions and encourage critical thinking about the way women are viewed in society.
- Create a personal code of conduct for online behavior that emphasizes respect and equality. Write down a set of principles that guide your interactions on social media and forums, such as never using language that objectifies or dehumanizes others, and commit to calling out or reporting such language when you see it. This personal commitment can be a small but powerful step in fostering a more respectful online community.
- Engage in active listening when conversing with women, focusing on understanding their perspectives without judgment or interruption. Practice this in your daily interactions, whether with colleagues, friends, or family members. By doing so, you contribute to a culture of respect and equality, and you model behavior that values women's voices and experiences.
The increasing commonality of belief systems on the internet that promote the superiority of men.
Bates illustrates that the ideologies of these collectives have spread widely and gained a level of acceptance in the wider social sphere, extending well beyond the original boundaries of internet communities dominated by men. Digital platforms are instrumental in accelerating the growth of these groups, and influential figures often exploit vulnerable followers for personal gain, as highlighted by Laura Bates.
The manosphere has evolved from its early digital meetings to encompass a broad network comprising diverse websites, online forums, and groups spread across numerous social media platforms.
Bates delves into the origin of the modern movement that promotes the superiority of men, outlining its development and the manner in which it has become more organized. Laura Bates demonstrates how different groups, such as those advocating involuntary celibacy and those teaching seduction strategies, while pursuing unique goals, have coalesced into a wider, interlinked network with similar ideologies and the use of analogous strategies and language. Laura Bates argues that the beliefs and tactics of these online groups have progressively infiltrated everyday life, mirroring the growing influence of the movement. The manosphere's impact has extended past the confines of the online world, leading to instances where women face harassment from internet collectives and witness similar conduct at a range of public events, workshops, and social functions.
The internet's role in amplifying and organizing these groups is scrutinized, highlighting how online algorithms and the structure of platforms contribute to the widespread dissemination of radical content.
The writer emphasizes the significant growth and organization of online networks where men's rights are discussed, attributing this spread to the influence of the internet and various social media channels. Digital platforms often utilize algorithms that, with minimal human oversight, tend to guide users toward content that becomes progressively more radical, thereby establishing a "rabbit hole" phenomenon where the widespread and frequent encounter with such extreme views leads to their normalization. Online discussions frequently employ what appears to be lighthearted dialogue to mask the widespread dissemination of entrenched attitudes of misogyny. Platforms enable the establishment, deletion, and recovery of user profiles, which aids collectives in coordinating and intensifying their harassment campaigns. Bates argues that a variety of factors have contributed to the increased visibility and societal acceptance of these online groups.
The Rise of Figureheads and Influencers: Analysing how charismatic leaders disseminate beliefs that demean women and monetize their influence over susceptible adherents, with individuals such as Jordan Peterson serving as examples for examination.
Bates highlights how certain individuals have gained notoriety within male-dominated online communities, using their influence to spread beliefs that endorse male dominance and often exploiting vulnerable men for substantial financial gain.
Laura Bates highlights two prominent figures: a Canadian psychology professor who rose to global prominence via his online teachings, and Paul Elam, the founder of the men's rights platform A Voice for Men. Laura Bates assesses how Elam, a prominent figure within the Men's Rights Activist circles, profits from the same people he claims to support. Elam launched an initiative encouraging men to respond to "violent women." She also scrutinizes the objectives of a specific academic, who craftily challenges the core tenets of feminism using complex academic jargon as a cover. While some of Peterson's rhetoric echoes traditional gender stereotypes, he also frames feminism as a “murderous doctrine”, playing directly into the online mob that targets feminist activists with death threats. Laura Bates underscores the contradiction of men who bemoan their perceived oppression when voicing contentious opinions, yet often exhibit scant regard for dissenting viewpoints and commonly engage in intimidation and persecution.
Political figures, such as Donald Trump and Boris Johnson, have subtly used language that appeals to those with extremist views, showing the infiltration of manosphere rhetoric into mainstream political conversations.
Some well-known political figures, who already have unrestricted entry to public and media stages, are deliberately advocating for radical ideologies. Laura Bates highlights how the language used throughout Donald Trump's political campaign mirrored the ideologies prevalent among manosphere adherents and alt-right factions. He often uses derogatory language to describe women, referring to them as overweight swine and canines, and asserts that hiring one's spouse is a risky endeavor. He has crudely bragged about assaulting women and insinuated that their emotional stability is influenced by their menstrual cycles. He has also used similarly derogatory language to demean people from various ethnic backgrounds, alleging that immigrants from Mexico have committed sexual offenses and telling four U.S. congresswomen of different ethnicities to go back to the countries of their heritage, despite their status as American citizens. The author highlights that such claims align with the beliefs commonly held within alt-right and manosphere groups, observing their eager endorsement of these views.
The book delves into the ways in which online materials, such as memes, comedic elements, and video game environments, can captivate and influence men, with a focus on the younger demographic, for certain purposes.
Bates highlights the concerning tactics that misogynistic online communities employ to deliberately target and indoctrinate young boys through the internet. Laura Bates voices concern regarding her observation that an increasing number of youths are mirroring the attitudes prevalent in the manosphere, a pattern that is particularly evident in schools, where it has become usual to hear male students dismissively refer to 'feminazis', deny allegations of sexual impropriety without basis, and claim that the societal scales are tipped in favor of women. The author argues that the spread of sexist and misogynistic ideologies on widely used internet platforms, particularly through memes and content meant to be humorous that can be quickly disseminated, plays a role in influencing young men.
The conversation emphasizes the role of YouTube and other similar platforms in leading young people on a trajectory where, through algorithmic recommendations, they are increasingly exposed to more extreme content, potentially fostering extremist ideologies.
The author warns that the design of various online platforms, coupled with the tendency of algorithms to recommend content of a similar nature, can result in users gradually shifting toward perspectives that become more and more radical. A concerning example of this problem is how young people are often pushed toward extremist views through the suggestions made by YouTube's algorithms, guiding them toward increasingly extreme content. Bates began a personal exploration by first watching a video that endorsed feminism and subsequently followed the trail of videos that the platform suggested as pertinent. Shortly after beginning, she was subjected to Milo Yiannopoulos's tirade on what he termed "profane, lesbianic feminism" and listened to Jordan Peterson's contention that the rise of feminism has resulted in a climate where men live in fear of women. Individuals exploring feminism with genuine interest may soon encounter material that subtly shifts the conversation, nudging them toward more radical beliefs.
Other Perspectives
- The manosphere is not a monolithic entity, and not all groups within it promote the superiority of men; some advocate for men's rights without denigrating women.
- Algorithms may also lead users to balanced or counter-narrative content, and users have agency in their content choices.
- Some charismatic leaders may genuinely believe in their cause and not all are motivated by financial gain or exploitation.
- Political figures often use a wide range of rhetoric, and not all language that resonates with a particular group is intended to endorse extremist views.
- Exposure to online materials does not deterministically lead to the adoption of extremist ideologies; individuals have the capacity for critical thinking and discernment.
- YouTube and similar platforms have taken steps to adjust algorithms and remove extremist content, which may mitigate the trajectory towards radicalization.
Exploring the connection between extremist views on the internet and their escalation into actual violence against women, while also considering strategies to address these issues.
Laura Bates underscores the critical nature of recognizing the seriousness of this menace. She offers essential guidance on confronting the dangers emanating from the manosphere by stressing the importance of understanding the problem, addressing its root causes, and strengthening the resolve of those determined to challenge it.
Exploring how a quest for control can lead to acts of male aggression, exemplified by the tragic events at École Polytechnique perpetrated by Marc Lépine.
The author draws a troubling parallel, indicating that the aim of both domestic violence and terrorism is to sow terror among women and to employ acts of violence as a method for asserting control over them. The author of the book examines the devastating event at École Polytechnique in 1989, which Marc Lépine carried out, as a distinct illustration of this connection. Lépine targeted students by gender, condemning their ambitions of pursuing engineering careers. You are merely a collective bound together by feminist principles. Before commencing the shooting that led to fourteen deaths and left another fourteen injured, he expressed his contempt for proponents of women's rights. The link between acts of terrorism and instances of domestic violence goes beyond superficial resemblances, manifesting in real-world occurrences and circumstances. Investigations have revealed a pattern showing that numerous perpetrators of mass violence or terrorism often have a history of domestic abuse or violent conduct. The person who carried out the mass shooting at a gay nightclub in Orlando, along with the perpetrators of the 2017 London Bridge attacks, had both been previously identified by authorities for perpetrating violence in their domestic relationships, underscoring a clear connection. Opportunities for proactive measures seem to be frequently overlooked.
The book highlights the strong link between people who commit mass violence and their histories of domestic violence. Demonstrating the vital importance of taking domestic violence seriously as a warning sign of future violence
Bates argues that our growing numbness to aggressive behavior against women hinders our capacity to identify key signs of extremist violence. A 2019 investigation showed that in over one-third of public mass shootings since 2011, at least twenty-two incidents involved individuals who had previously engaged in domestic violence, specifically aimed their aggression at women, or had a pattern of stalking and harassing women. Analysis of FBI statistics shows that casualties in more than 50% of mass shootings were a family member or intimate partner personally linked to the perpetrator. The author also highlights the worrying trend in media coverage that attempts to portray male violence against women as “understandable”. Media representations frequently evoke sympathy for the perpetrator and insinuate, albeit subtly, that the victims may share some blame for the abuse they endured. Laura Bates draws attention to an instance in which media coverage of a man who took the lives of his wife and daughter focused on his amiable nature, proficiency in household chores, and marital challenges, while neglecting to acknowledge the experiences of the victims or the impact of domestic violence on their lives.
Educational institutions should proactively break down gender stereotypes while simultaneously teaching young people the essential concepts of consent and the basis of wholesome relationships.
Laura Bates underscores the necessity of providing young people with a thorough and accurate understanding of issues related to gender, respect, equality, and abuse as a fundamental approach to tackling these issues. She argues that schools should implement a more comprehensive and proactive approach to teaching young men, providing them with the essential skills to critically assess and challenge the misleading content they might encounter online. A comprehensive approach is crucial, incorporating programs that encompass the entire school and are possibly supplemented by more focused discussions designed to foster in-depth dialogue and clarify misconceptions in a setting where students feel comfortable expressing their opinions openly.
The Good Lad Initiative's success in online environments highlights the importance of parental engagement in the virtual realms their children visit.
The author passionately advocates for decisive actions to tackle bias against women in both tangible environments and online spaces. Programs such as the Good Lad Initiative, which offer discussions and training sessions for young men, could be scaled up and modified to engage a wider demographic, thereby addressing the void that might leave many young men susceptible to the persuasive stories propagated by organizations that advocate for male dominance. Parents and teachers should extend their watchfulness to areas beyond the household, acknowledging that the virtual environments, such as numerous multiplayer video game platforms and a wide array of social networking sites, where boys often engage, can also be settings where they may encounter danger.
Platforms must enforce stricter regulations and improve surveillance of harmful content, including banning individuals who advocate for extreme beliefs from participating in online discussions.
Bates argues that it is imperative for society to demand greater responsibility on the part of social media platforms. Law enforcement should prioritize surveillance and legal measures to address illegal activities on the internet, particularly in relation to coordinating and carrying out acts of violence through digital platforms. While it is crucial to uphold the principle of free expression, we must also recognize that the detrimental effects of profoundly hateful speech warrant certain restrictions. Major technology firms must prioritize their users' safety over the pursuit of profit. Enhancing the oversight of digital platforms is emphasized, and Bates highlights the necessity of excluding those who advocate for extremist views from these forums to significantly diminish their influence and the proliferation of their harmful ideologies.
Supporting and Funding Grassroots Efforts with Male Leadership: Emphasizing the essential role played by men in challenging and dismantling damaging views of masculinity, as exemplified by initiatives like the white ribbon campaign and efforts that seek to free men from such constraints.
Laura Bates underscores the critical role that men must play in tackling the problem of violent misogyny. It is essential to strengthen and amplify the efforts of men who are actively challenging and dismantling damaging masculine standards while also opposing the widespread misogynistic ideologies prevalent within the manosphere. She highlights examples of successful initiatives by men, like the Campaign Against Living Miserably, which offers support for mental health and concentrates on helping males struggling with suicidal ideation. Bates acknowledges the significant role played by men who have challenged sexist and misogynistic attitudes, emphasizing the enduring influence of the movement for men's liberation that began in the 1970s and the accomplishments of organizations like the White Ribbon Campaign. Michael Kaufman, co-founder of the White Ribbon Campaign, frequently highlights the link between aggressive conduct and strict masculine standards, urging men to contemplate their role in perpetuating a culture of inequality.
Other Perspectives
- While recognizing the connection between online extremist views and violence is important, it's also critical to consider the complexity of factors that lead to violence, including mental health issues, socio-economic factors, and cultural influences, which may not be directly related to online activities.
- Addressing the root causes of violence against women is essential, but there is debate over what these root causes are and how they can be effectively addressed, with some arguing for a focus on individual accountability and others on societal change.
- The comparison between domestic violence and terrorism could be seen as oversimplifying the motivations and psychological profiles of individuals who commit these acts, potentially ignoring the unique factors that drive each type of violence.
- While there is a correlation between domestic violence and mass violence, correlation does not necessarily imply causation, and not all domestic abusers become mass shooters, nor do all mass shooters have histories of domestic violence.
- The argument that domestic violence should be taken as a warning sign for future violence could lead to stigmatization of individuals who have engaged in domestic violence but are not at risk of committing mass violence.
- Media coverage of male violence against women is a complex issue, and while some coverage may be problematic, there are also examples of responsible journalism that provide balanced perspectives without victim-blaming.
- Educational institutions have a role in teaching about consent and gender stereotypes, but there is debate about the best methods for doing so and the extent to which schools should be involved in what some consider to be the parental domain.
- Parental engagement in virtual spaces is important, but there is also a need to respect the autonomy and privacy of young people as they navigate online environments.
- Stricter regulations on platforms may raise concerns about free speech and the potential for overreach in censorship, with some arguing that open dialogue, rather than banning individuals, is a more effective way to counter extremist beliefs.
- While grassroots efforts with male leadership are important, it is also necessary to ensure that these efforts are inclusive and do not inadvertently reinforce gender binaries or exclude non-binary and transgender perspectives on masculinity and violence.
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