Book SummaryThe Dichotomy of Leadership, by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

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If you want to accomplish anything on a large scale, you have to learn to lead a team. But leadership is no simple task. As former Navy SEAL commanders and corporate leadership consultants Jocko Willink and Leif Babin explain, leadership is especially difficult because every quality of a good leader becomes a hindrance when taken to the extreme: At a certain point, courage, discipline, and empathy all become deficiencies like recklessness, rigidness, and emotional paralysis. Thus, leadership requires a delicate balance of various dichotomies: Be compassionate yet pragmatic, humble yet confident, bold yet cautious.

The Philosophical Roots of the Dichotomy of Leadership

Willink and Babin are far from the first to suggest that the ideal course of action lies between two extremes. Most people know this concept as the “golden...

The Dichotomy of Leadership Summary Background: Extreme Ownership Requires Balance

The Dichotomy of Leadership is Willink and Babin’s follow-up to 2015’s Extreme Ownership, which argues that a leader should take responsibility for all their team’s mistakes and do everything they can to improve the team’s chance of success. The authors refer to this idea as “Extreme Ownership”—in our guide, we’ll call it “radical accountability” for simplicity.

The principle of radical accountability serves as the foundation of Willink and Babin’s argument throughout The Dichotomy of Leadership: Leaders are entirely responsible for finding the balance with the greatest chance of success in every dichotomy of leadership.

Other Perspectives on Radical Accountability

While radical accountability is central to Willink and Babin’s “brand” and serves...

The Dichotomy of Leadership Summary Dichotomy #1: Care About Each Individual, but Make Sacrifices for the Group

The first of Willink and Babin’s dichotomies we’ll discuss is the balance between serving the individual and serving the group. We’ll begin by explaining this balance in greater detail, then describe two specific instances of this dichotomy: first, when you have to lead the people you care about into danger; and second, when you have to cut someone you care about from the team.

Willink and Babin assert that you should care about every member of your team as if they were part of your family. A tight-knit emotional bond between team members is one of the most powerful assets you can have to accomplish your mission. Mutual trust and support allow each member of the team to perform at their best, and feelings of camaraderie are a potent source of motivation.

(Shortform note: In The Leadership Challenge, James M. Kouzes and Barry Z. Posner cite research supporting Willink and Babin’s claim that a tight-knit team offers a real tactical advantage. One study found that over five years, [teams of friends completed three times as many...

The Dichotomy of Leadership Summary Dichotomy #2: Take Responsibility for Your Team, but Don’t Do Everything

The second dichotomy we’ll discuss is the balance between hands-on leadership and prudent delegation. Willink and Babin assert that because a leader can’t do everything, the best way to take responsibility for your team’s success is to endow other people with responsibility. However, if you delegate all your responsibilities and assume that someone else is solving every problem, you could be unknowingly steering your team toward disaster.

(Shortform note: In Traction, Gino Wickman argues that an imbalance in this dichotomy is the most common reason a successful business fails to grow. Leaders can successfully run everything in the early stages of a company, but delegation becomes more necessary as the business scales up and the number of tasks grows. It’s difficult, but leaders must slowly give up their responsibilities, building a company that can function without them while maintaining enough control to ensure that it’s still functional.)

First, we’ll examine the dangers of micromanagement and the benefits of delegation. Then, we’ll examine the other side of the...

The Dichotomy of Leadership Summary Dichotomy #3: Maintain High Standards, but Don’t Push Too Hard

The third dichotomy we’ll discuss is the balance between demanding high performance and nurturing your team’s growth. Willink and Babin argue that since you’re accepting radical accountability for your team’s overall success or failure, it’s your responsibility to ensure that every team member is performing at a high standard. However, if you push your team too hard, demanding absolute perfection, you’ll destroy your team’s morale and hinder their performance.

(Shortform note: This dichotomy also applies to the way you manage yourself. Being the best you can be requires holding yourself to a high standard. However, if you push too hard and berate yourself for every little mistake you make, disciplining yourself will make you miserable—so you’ll be less likely to do it. For this reason, lowering the standards you set for yourself often makes it easier to discipline yourself and accomplish your goals.)

We’ll discuss two instances in which leaders ask too much of their teams: first, when leaders impose too many strict rules, and second, when leaders make training too difficult.

Only Enforce the Necessary Rules

The first way leaders...

The Dichotomy of Leadership Summary Dichotomy #4: Defer to Others, but Trust Yourself

The fourth of Willink and Babin’s dichotomies we’ll discuss is the balance between trust in others and confidence in your ideas. The best leaders can take advice as well as they give orders. Being a leader doesn’t always mean telling people what to do—often, other team members are better equipped than you to make the right decisions. However, if you’re too reliant on others and lack confidence in your leadership, you may end up following others’ lead in situations where you know better.

(Shortform note: In short, this dichotomy requires you to ask, “How much do I trust my beliefs?” In Thinking in Bets, Annie Duke advises to ask yourself this question not just when you’re making leadership decisions but all the time, for every belief you have. By viewing your beliefs as bets—risks that cost you something if you’re wrong—you’ll be less susceptible to cognitive biases and more likely to change your mind in light of new information.)

First, we’ll examine the argument for setting your ego aside and following someone else’s lead. Then, we’ll discuss the...

The Dichotomy of Leadership Summary Dichotomy #5: Rush Forward, but Be Careful

The final dichotomy of Willink and Babin’s that we’ll discuss is the balance between forceful action and cautious risk management. Find a way to rush toward your goal as ruthlessly as possible while maintaining the presence of mind to guard against careless mistakes.

(Shortform note: You could also frame this dichotomy as the need to find the right amount of courage—not too little, but not too much. Aristotle argued that people who lack fear entirely are just as immoral as “cowards” who fear everything. You need courage to take action, but it’s just as necessary to fear things like temptation and failure so you can work to avoid them.)

We’ll first examine the benefits of purposeful aggressive action as well as some of the more subtle dangers of failing to act, like the risk of overplanning. Then, we’ll warn against the dangers of acting too hastily and incurring unnecessary risks.

When in Doubt, Do Something

Willink and Babin recommend building the momentum to achieve your goal as quickly as possible. In most situations, doing anything, even embracing an imperfect solution to a...

Shortform Exercise: Are You Micromanaging or Not Doing Enough?

In the moment, it’s often difficult to notice when you’re leaning too far toward one side of a dichotomy. Take a step back and question whether you’re too involved in your team’s responsibilities—or not involved enough.

Reflect on your managerial style—do you think you’re more likely to fail by managing too much or not enough, and why? What experiences from your life led you to this conclusion?

Shortform Exercise: Set Challenging Yet Attainable Standards

Willink and Babin assert that it’s up to you to push your team to do their best work, but warn that pushing too hard will hinder their performance. Assess the standards you set for your team: Make sure you’re not overwhelming them with unnecessary rules and are assigning them tasks just difficult enough to help them grow.

List some of the rules and requirements you obligate your team to follow. Which of these rules contribute the most to your mission’s success, and why?