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10ish Instances of People Doing Things Out Of Spite

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In this episode from the Stuff You Should Know podcast, the hosts explore unusual historical instances of people acting out of spite. They recount tales of extreme lengths people have gone to, like the Coldingham nuns mutilating themselves before a Viking raid, only to meet a tragic end. The hosts also delve into spiteful acts born out of business and personal rivalries, such as the founding of Lamborghini after a rebuke from Ferrari.

The episode examines spite in the political arena too, highlighting tit-for-tat exchanges like Saddam Hussein's insulting mosaic portrait of the elder President Bush, later destroyed by the younger Bush in retaliation. It also touches on architectural examples, celebrity antics, and even an outrageous holiday lights display borne of neighborhood spite. In all, the episode explores the phenomenon of spite across various historical contexts and demonstrates the lengths some have gone in defiance or vengeance.

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Historical/Religious Examples of Spite

Coldingham Nuns Self-Mutilate Ahead of Viking Raid, Die In Monastery Fire

In 867 CE, facing a Viking raid, St. Aebbe the Younger led Coldingham's nuns in cutting off their lips and noses to preserve their vows of chastity. Josh Clark notes this extreme act aimed to uphold religious commitments rather than spite, but it was in vain - the Vikings burned the monastery, killing all the nuns.

Business/Personal Rivalries and Spite

Frick's Spiteful Acts Toward Carnegie After Partnership Ending

After their business partnership dissolved, Henry Clay Frick harbored deep resentment toward Andrew Carnegie. Beyond winning compensation in court, Frick taunted Carnegie, like building a larger mansion nearby. Ultimately, Frick coldly rebuffed Carnegie's attempt at reconciliation.

Lamborghini Founded Car Company After Ferrari Reject Idea

Ferrari owner Ferruccio Lamborghini suggested a clutch improvement to Enzo Ferrari, who dismissed him rudely. In response, Lamborghini started his own luxury car company in 1963, strategically hiring former Ferrari employees.

Political/Public Figures Acting Out of Spite

Hussein's Mosaic of Bush Sr. Installed to Be Walked On

Saddam Hussein commissioned a mosaic mural of George H.W. Bush for the lobby floor of Baghdad's Al Rashid Hotel, made with the intent for visitors to "walk all over" the former U.S. president he called a "criminal."

Bush Jr. Orders Mosaic Destroyed In Retaliation

In what appeared retaliatory during the Iraq War, George W. Bush ordered the destruction of the unflattering mosaic portrait of his father Hussein had installed.

Architectural Examples of Spite

"Pink House" Built on Remote Island to Spite Ex-Wife

After divorcing in 1925, a husband was demanded by his ex-wife to build her an identical home if she left. He maliciously constructed the replica on isolated Plum Island without utilities to spite her before it was sold in 2012.

Chinese Couple's House Stands In Highway Project's Path

In 2012, after a couple refused to vacate for a highway, Chinese authorities built the road curving around their home, leaving it defiantly standing in the road's path amid compensation disputes.

Celebrity/Artistic Acts of Spite

Prince's Name Change to Symbol to Spite Warner Bros

In 1993, Prince changed his name to an unpronounceable symbol to defy Warner Bros' control over his music rights and contract limits, writing "slave" on his cheek to symbolize his battle with the label.

Ansell's Offensive Lights Display After Neighbor Complaints

After being ordered to remove his excessive Christmas lights due to complaints, electrician Bill Ansell erected an outrageous, crude new display mocking the township and targeting a neighbor to antagonize them.

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  • You can explore the power of symbolic actions by creating a personal emblem that represents your values or goals, much like Prince's name change. Design a simple symbol that encapsulates what you stand for or a goal you're pursuing. Use this emblem as a personal logo on your stationery, a desktop wallpaper, or a piece of jewelry to remind you of your commitment to these ideals.
  • Turn a negative experience into a creative project by writing a short story or creating a piece of art that channels the emotions and lessons learned from the experience. For instance, if you've faced rejection or a setback, use that as the central theme of your narrative or artwork, transforming the negative into a source of inspiration and reflection.
  • Assert your individuality in the face of conformity by customizing an everyday object in a way that defies expectations, similar to how Lamborghini started his own car company. Take something standard like your phone case, bicycle, or even your office cubicle, and personalize it with unique decorations or modifications that reflect your personality and set you apart from the crowd.

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Historical/Religious Examples of Spite

Coldingham Nuns Mutilate Themselves to Avoid Vikings, Die In Monastery Fire

Nuns Sacrificed Looks For Chastity but Weren't Spared From Viking Violence

In 867 CE, as Viking raiders advanced southward to the British Isles, local villages fell under siege, suffering physical and sexual assaults. At the Coldingham monastery in Scotland, the nuns faced an imminent threat. Their lead nun, Saint Aebbe the Younger, suggested a harrowing plan: to mutilate themselves and thereby diminish their attraction to the Vikings to avoid sexual assault and maintain their vows.

Saint Aebbe set the precedent by severing her own lip, and the nuns followed by cutting off their noses. This act of self-mutilation was an extreme measure, aimed to preserve their chastity, which was of paramount importance to them as brides of Christ.

However, Chuck Bryant points out that their sacrifice was ultimately in vain. Despite their drastic efforts to guard their purity, the nuns' lives were met with a tragic end. The Viking raiders set the monastery ablaz ...

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  • Reflect on personal values by journaling about what you would stand for under extreme circumstances. Imagine a scenario where your core beliefs are challenged, and write down how you would respond to protect those values, drawing inspiration from the nuns' commitment to their faith.
  • Create a piece of art that symbolizes personal sacrifice for a greater cause. Use any medium you're comfortable with, such as painting, drawing, or digital art, to express the concept of giving up something significant for a deeply held belief or principle.
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Business/Personal Rivalries and Spite

Business rivalries can be deeply personal and sometimes lead to lasting legacies shaped by spite and vengeance. Two notable stories exemplify how bitterness and the urge to outdo a rival can fuel innovation and success, even when rooted in resentment.

Frick-Carnegie Feud: Frick's Actions to Undermine Carnegie After Partnership Ending

Chuck Bryant and Josh Clark recount the famous feud between Henry Clay Frick and Andrew Carnegie. The dissolution of their partnership led to a deep-seated animosity that Frick harbored against Carnegie for the rest of his life.

Frick's Vindictive Acts Toward Carnegie Out of Resentment

Even after Frick won a lawsuit and compensation against Carnegie, his resentment persisted. Frick would go out of his way to taunt Carnegie, such as when Carnegie’s company faltered, and he even built a larger mansion near Carnegie's just to spite him. The rivalry reached a personal crescendo when Carnegie, in poor health and seeking reconciliation, reached out to Frick. Frick's heartless response was that he would meet Carnegie in hell, highlighting the intensity of his animus.

Lamborghini Founded His Car Company After Ferrari Dismissed His Clutch Design Suggestions

When it comes to automotive legends, the story of Ferruccio Lamborghini's venture into luxury cars is a classic tale of rivalry born out of rejection.

Lamborghini Founded His Luxury Car Company After Ferrari Rejected His Improvement Ideas, Hiring Ex-Ferrari Employ ...

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  • Frick's actions could be seen as a demonstration of his competitive spirit and determination rather than mere spite.
  • Building a larger mansion could be interpreted as Frick's ambition to succeed and showcase his wealth, not just to taunt Carnegie.
  • Frick's refusal to reconcile with Carnegie could be viewed as a principled stand if he believed Carnegie's actions were unforgivable.
  • Lamborghini's decision to start his own car company might have been influenced by more than just the rejection from Ferrari, such as a desire to diversify his business interests or a passion for automotive engineering.
  • Ferrari's dismissal of Lamborghini's suggestions c ...

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  • Turn a rejection into a catalyst for personal innovation by brainstorming how you can improve upon a product or service you frequently use, then sketch out a basic plan to realize that improvement. For instance, if you're dissatisfied with a gardening tool, think about how it could be more efficient or user-friendly, draw a new design, and consider sharing it with a community of gardening enthusiasts for feedback.
  • Use a personal setback as motivation to achieve a goal in a completely different area of your life by setting a specific, measurable target. If you've experienced a professional disappointment, channel that energy into a fitness or educational goal, like running a half-marathon or completing an online course, to create a positive outcome from the situation.
  • Transform a competitive ...

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Political/Public Figures Acting Out of Spite

Josh Clark and Chuck Bryant spotlight how actions between political figures can often stem from personal animosities, showcasing a particularly spiteful exchange between two world leaders.

Mosaic of George H.W. Bush For Visitors to Walk On In Baghdad Hotel Lobby

Hussein's Mosaic Portrait Commissioned to Make Visitors "Walk all Over" Bush

Josh Clark and Chuck Bryant discuss an act of disrespect by Saddam Hussein directed at former U.S. President George H.W. Bush. Saddam Hussein had a mosaic mural of Bush created and installed on the floor of the Al Rashid Hotel's entrance in Baghdad. Designed with the phrase "Bush is criminal," it was unmistakably intended to demean the former president by having visitors walk over his likeness.

Bush Orders Mosaic Destroyed In Retaliation

Bush Destroyed Portrait Meant to Humiliate His Father, Reasserting Dominance Over Hussein

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  • Reflect on the symbolism in your surroundings by taking a walk through your local area and noting any public art or monuments that may carry political or historical significance. This activity can help you understand how public spaces are used to convey messages and how they might influence public perception, similar to the mosaic of George H.W. Bush.
  • Create a personal journal entry exploring a time when you felt the need to respond to a perceived slight or insult, and how you handled the situation. This can provide insight into your own reactions to humiliation or challenges to your status, offering a parallel to the destruction of the mosaic as a retaliatory move.
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Architectural Examples of Spite (E.G. Spite Houses)

Spite houses are a unique architectural phenomenon, and two standout examples illustrate the lengths people will go to make a point or stand their ground.

"Pink House" on Plum Island Built From Husband's Spite

One such example is the "Pink House" on Plum Island, a notorious spite house built amidst Massachusetts' remote marshland.

After His Wife Demanded an Identical Home if He Kicked Her Out, He Spitefully Rebuilt It In a Remote Location

In 1925, following a divorce, the wife demanded that if she were to leave, her husband must construct an exact replica of their current home for her. He obliged but selected a desolate location on Plum Island, without fresh water or electricity, to rebuild the house — likely intended to spite his ex-wife. Over the years, various tenants occupied the pink house until 2011. The following year, it was sold to the Parker River National Wildlife Refuge. Now off-limits to the public, there are efforts to preserve the house officially.

"Couple's House Stands Firm In China's Highway Project"

Couple Resists Government; Highway Built Around House

In China, a couple named Luo Bogin and his wife made headlines in 2012 when they refused to sell their house to the government, which did not offer enough compensation for a highway project. The government's solution was to build the highway around their house, resulting in a striking image of a road that expanded and curved around the proper ...

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  • Spite houses are structures built with the primary purpose of expressing animosity or frustration towards someone or something. They often serve as a form of revenge or protest, showcasing unique architectural designs or unconventional locations to convey a message. These buildings can be created in response to personal disputes, legal conflicts, or social issues, making them intriguing examples of how architecture can reflect human emotions and conflicts. The concept of spite houses highlights the intersection of personal grievances and architectural expression, offering a glimpse into the diverse motivations behind construction projects beyond traditional purposes.
  • The "Pink House" on Plum Island was built by a man in a remote location as a spiteful response to his ex-wife's demand for an identical home after their divorce. The house was intentionally constructed without basic amenities like fresh water or electricity. Despite various tenants occupying the house over the years, it is now off-limits to the public and efforts are being made to officially preserve it.
  • Eminent domain is the government's power to acquire private property for public use, even without the owner's consent. Compensation is the payment provided to property owners whose land is taken through eminent domain. In the case of the Chinese couple, they resisted the government's attempt to acquire their property through eminent domain, leading to negotiations over fair compensation for the ...

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Celebrity/Artistic Acts of Spite

Tales of defiance and creative rebellion often emerge from disputes in the entertainment industry and neighborhood disputes. From Prince's iconic battle with his record label to Bill Ansell's Christmas display feud, acts of spite can manifest in unique and sometimes elaborate ways.

Prince's Name Change to Symbol to Spite Warner Bros

Prince Changed Name to Symbol to Defy Label's Control Over Music Rights

In 1993, Prince Rogers Nelson, better known as Prince, deliberately changed his name to an unpronounceable symbol as an act of defiance against Warner Brothers Records. The symbol, blending male and female elements, had been a part of Prince's imagery for some time, adorning his guitar and possibly his motorcycle in the film "Purple Rain."

Though initially perceived as a quirk of Prince's eccentric personality, it's widely understood now that the name change was done to spite Warner Brothers. Prince was entangled in an unsatisfactory record contract that limited the frequency of his music releases and granted the label rights to his songs.

By adopting the symbol, Prince aimed to complicate matters for Warner Brothers, potentially challenging the contract since it was originally signed with "Prince." During performances, he emphasized his protest by writing "slave" on his cheek, symbolizing how he felt bound by the contract. It wasn't until his contract expired in 2000 that Prince reclaimed his birth name. Throughout this period, the media adapted, referring to him as "the artist formerly known as Prince" since digital files with the symbol were distributed by Warner Brothers as there were no keyboard symbols for his new name.

Bill Ansell's Spiteful, Elaborate Christmas Lights After Neighbor Complaints

Forced to Take Down Lights, Ansell Builds Outrageous Display to Antagonize Neighbors

The narrative of spite isn't confined to the celebrity sphere. In Ross Township, Pennsylvania, an electrician named Bill Ansell became known for his excessive Christmas display. His decorations cau ...

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  • Prince's dispute with Warner Brothers Records stemmed from an unsatisfactory record contract that limited his creative freedom and control over his music. To challenge the constraints of the contract, Prince changed his name to an unpronounceable symbol, complicating matters for the label. This act of defiance was a strategic move to protest against the restrictions imposed by Warner Brothers. The symbol represented Prince's rebellion and his desire to break free from the contractual limitations imposed by the record label.
  • Prince's name change to a symbol was a strategic move to defy his record label's control over his music rights. The symbol, a blend of male and female elements, was a visual representation of Prince's artistic identity. By adopting the symbol, Prince aimed to complicate matters for Warner Brothers and potentially challenge his restrictive record contract. The name change was a bold statement of independence and resistance against the constraints imposed by the music industry.
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