Cassie’s Husband Texts Diddy “I’d Like To Beat The F*ck Out Of You”
In this episode of Rotten Mango, the hosts discuss details from Cassie's lawsuit against Sean Combs, examining their relationship that began when she was 21. The summary covers allegations of orchestrated sexual encounters called "freak offs," which Combs allegedly arranged and filmed, as well as claims of physical abuse and emotional manipulation through various means including blackmail.
The discussion includes information about Cassie's path after leaving the relationship in 2018, including her treatment for PTSD and the eventual $20 million settlement of her lawsuit against Combs. The hosts also explore how the relationship impacted other figures in their circle, including Cassie's brief relationship with Kid Cudi and Combs' previous relationship with Kim Porter.
This is a preview of the Shortform summary of the May 18, 2025 episode of the Rotten Mango
Sign up for Shortform to access the whole episode summary along with additional materials like counterarguments and context.
1-Page Summary
Cassie's Relationship With Sean Combs, Including "Freak Offs"
Rui Qian and Stephanie Soo discuss Cassie's relationship with Sean Combs, which began when she was 21. A year into their relationship, Combs introduced Cassie to "freak offs"—orchestrated sexual encounters where Combs would watch Cassie engage with others. These events often involved drugs provided by Combs to help Cassie dissociate from the experience. Cassie describes these encounters as meticulously choreographed and deeply humiliating, leaving her feeling objectified and numb.
Combs' Alleged Control and Abuse of Cassie
Cassie details a pattern of violent physical abuse by Combs, including incidents where she was beaten with objects and left severely injured. Beyond physical violence, Combs exercised control through emotional manipulation and blackmail, using explicit videos of "freak offs" to ensure Cassie's compliance. He would also regularly belittle her and criticize her appearance.
Cassie's Efforts to Move on and Seek Accountability
After leaving Combs in 2018, Cassie struggled with PTSD and suicidal thoughts, eventually seeking treatment in rehab in 2023. She filed a $30 million lawsuit against Combs, which was settled within 24 hours for $20 million. This legal resolution marked a significant step in her journey toward recovery and closure.
Involvement of Celebrities and Figures in Events
The relationship's dynamics extended to other celebrities, notably Kid Cudi, whom Cassie dated briefly in 2011. Cassie reveals that Combs became violent upon discovering this relationship through emails. The summary also discusses Combs' previous relationship with Kim Porter, who was known for bringing stability to his life, though their relationship ended when Porter discovered Combs' involvement with Jennifer Lopez through tabloids.
1-Page Summary
Additional Materials
Actionables
- You can support survivors by donating to organizations that provide resources for those affected by domestic violence, ensuring they have access to the help they need. By contributing to these organizations, you help create a safety net for individuals who may be experiencing similar situations as Cassie, offering them a way out and access to counseling, legal advice, and shelter.
- Educate yourself on the signs of emotional manipulation and abuse to better recognize and support friends or family who might be in similar situations. There are online courses and resources that can teach you about the patterns of abuse, how to approach someone you're concerned about, and ways to support them in seeking help, which can be crucial in preventing and addressing such issues in your community.
- Create a personal safety plan that includes strategies for leaving an abusive situation, should you ever need to. This plan could involve setting aside emergency funds, having a list of trusted contacts, and knowing the locations of safe spaces like shelters. Preparing such a plan encourages proactive thinking about personal safety and can be shared with loved ones to raise awareness about the importance of having an exit strategy.
Get access to the context and additional materials
Cassie's Relationship With Sean Combs, Including "Freak Offs"
Cassie's relationship with Sean Combs began when she was young, and it led to a series of uncomfortable and degrading experiences known as "freak offs."
Cassie and Combs' Long-Term Relationship Began When She Was 21
Rui Qian and Stephanie Soo discuss that Cassie met Combs at the age of 19, and their relationship began around the time she was 21. A year later, Combs introduced Cassie to "freak offs"—sexual encounters involving other people while Combs watched. Cassie felt objectified by these acts as they were treated casually and often involved strangers.
Combs Controlled Cassie's Life and Career
Combs had significant influence over Cassie's personal and professional life. He commented on her body and appearance, pressured her into cosmetic surgery, and micromanaged even the smallest details of her look. Additionally, Combs stalled her music career, limiting her to just one album release despite her extensive work.
Combs Introduced Cassie to "Freak Offs", Watching Her Engage in Sexual Acts With Others
Cassie explains that during "freak offs," she was provided with drugs like ecstasy, marijuana, [restricted term], GHB, sometimes mushrooms, and later, cocaine by Combs to help her dissociate from the experience. She had to wear revealing outfits and platform shoes. Combs took advantage of these orchestrated events to watch Cassie perform sexual acts, often in sex clubs like the Green Door in Las Vegas.
Combs Choreographed Freak Offs With Baby Oil, Drugs, and More
Combs' direction of "freak offs" was meticulous, from the use of heated baby oil to specific sexual acts and positioning. Cassie describes it as "very choreographed," involving the application of oil, and at times, Combs instructed where ejaculations would take place, often directing it onto Cassie's body. The preparation for these events was excessive; Cassie would spend significant time collecting supplies, booking hotels, and finding escorts that Combs approved of.
Cassie's Frequent Participation in Freak Offs Often Left Her Humiliated, Disgusted, and Numb
Parti ...
Here’s what you’ll find in our full summary
Cassie's Relationship With Sean Combs, Including "Freak Offs"
Additional Materials
Actionables
- You can create a personal boundary checklist to ensure your relationships are healthy and respectful. Write down non-negotiable personal boundaries related to privacy, autonomy, and consent. Regularly review these boundaries in the context of your relationships to recognize red flags or areas where your boundaries are not being respected.
- Develop a self-worth affirmation routine to reinforce your value independent of others' actions or opinions. Start each morning by stating affirmations that focus on your intrinsic worth, such as "I am valuable for who I am, not what others want me to be," to build a strong sense of self-esteem that is not reliant on external validation.
- Engage in a creative expression pr ...
Get access to the context and additional materials
Combs' Alleged Control and Abuse of Cassie
Combs Was Violently Abusive Towards Cassie
The allegations against Sean Combs detail a history of abusive behavior towards Cassie, including physical violence and belittlement.
Combs Would Beat Cassie, Leaving Her Severely Injured
Cassie was subject to physical harm by Combs on multiple occasions, leaving her severely injured. For instance, after discovering emails between Cassie and one of Scott's staff members, Combs attacked her with a wine bottle opener. She was also kicked in the back while leaving his house, resulting in numerous bruises. She recalls Combs beating her at a hotel room after following her to a party, where he also threw luggage at her. Additional incidents included beatings that left her unrecognizable in the mirror, with swelling and bleeding. After one particular incident, Combs told Cassie to sneak out of the back of his house to recover in a hotel. A close-up of Cassie’s face revealed a deep wound on her eyebrow needing plastic surgery, and she covers a scar on her face with makeup from another incident. One of the security guards cried upon seeing the extent of Cassie's injuries. Combs also assaulted Cassie’s best friend, Carrie Morgan, using a wooden hanger.
Combs Would Belittle Cassie, Criticizing Her Appearance and Saying, "Fix Your Face."
Combs would also belittle Cassie, criticizing her appearance and telling her to "fix [her] face" or "watch [her] mouth" if her demeanor did not please him.
Combs Used Videos As Blackmail, Threatening to Release Them if Cassie Didn't Comply
Combs exploited his control over Cassie through the use of withheld videos, effectively ...
Here’s what you’ll find in our full summary
Combs' Alleged Control and Abuse of Cassie
Additional Materials
Actionables
- You can support survivors by learning about the signs of abuse and sharing resources discreetly. Educate yourself on the subtle and overt signs of domestic violence, such as unexplained injuries or changes in behavior. Share hotlines, websites, and local resources on your social media or in community spaces without directly addressing anyone, so that individuals in need can access this information without feeling targeted or exposed.
- Create a safe communication channel with friends where you can check in on each other's well-being. Set up a regular "wellness check" system with your friends, where you send a simple message or emoji to signify that you're okay or need assistance. This can be a non-invasive way to ensure everyone has a lifeline if they're in a difficult situation.
- Encourage open conversations about health ...
Get access to the context and additional materials
Cassie's Efforts to Move on and Seek Accountability
Cassie has taken significant steps toward moving on and seeking accountability after her troubled relationship with Sean Combs. Her efforts culminated in a $30 million lawsuit and ultimately a $20 million settlement.
Cassie Left Combs In 2018
Cassie ended her relationship with Sean Combs in August 2018. The emotional toll of the relationship was substantial, indicated by the protective behavior of her husband during her testimony and her own abrupt need for a break. Cassie's struggle with the aftermath of the breakup became a public concern when the PTSD episodes and sleepwalking – which she interpreted as signals from her body to "chill out" – became known.
Cassie Struggled With PTSD and Suicidal Thoughts From Abuse
The relationship left Cassie dealing with serious mental health issues. Struggling with PTSD and suicidal thoughts from the abuse, she found herself in a dark place. The trauma from the relationship compelled her to go to rehab in 2023. During this challenging period, she even attempted to write a book as part of her healing process.
Cassie Filed $30 Million Lawsuit Against Combs In 2023 For Harm He Caused
Seeking recognition for her suffering, Cassie filed a $30 million lawsuit against Combs. Her goal was to have Combs acknowl ...
Here’s what you’ll find in our full summary
Cassie's Efforts to Move on and Seek Accountability
Additional Materials
Actionables
- You can create a personal safety plan if you're experiencing a difficult situation, outlining steps to protect yourself and who to contact for support. This might include identifying safe places, having a list of emergency contacts, and knowing the nearest locations for help, such as a police station or a friend's house.
- Develop a self-care toolkit for mental health maintenance, which could include activities like journaling, mindfulness exercises, or a list of uplifting music and podcasts. This toolkit serves as a go-to resource for managing stress and promoting well-being during challenging times.
- Consider ...
Get access to the context and additional materials
Involvement of Celebrities and Figures in Events
The intertwining relationships between celebrities Cassie, Sean 'Diddy' Combs, Kid Cudi, Prince, and Kim Porter have led to various incidents and complex interactions.
Cassie's Links to Combs, Kid Cudi, Prince, and Kim Porter
Cassie, while recounting her experiences within her close-knit celebrity circles, recollects events that connect her to notable figures such as Sean Combs, Kid Cudi, Prince, and Kim Porter.
Combs Turned Violent After Learning Of Cassie's Relationship With Kid Cudi
In an alarming reveal, Cassie discloses that Sean Combs became violent upon discovering her relationship with Kid Cudi in 2011. Combs’s discovery happened during an undesirable circumstance, an event she refrains from detailing but labels as a 'freak off.' The transcript communicates that the very revelation of her relationship with Kid Cudi through emails found on Cassie's phone was the trigger that led to Combs's aggressive behavior. Cassie describes feeling threatened due to Combs' explicit warnings of violence against both her and Kid Cudi.
Cassie Recalls Combs Following Her To a Party and Assaulting Her
At a more serene setting at Prince's house, where a private performance took place, Cassie encountered industry executives and individuals she knew through Combs. However, the night took a distressing turn when Combs showed up at the event, exuding anger, which precipitated the aforementioned violent confrontation. Additionally, it’s notable that Cassie and Kid Cudi were attempting to sever their relationship due to the danger and intimidation from Combs. After an incident in Connecticut, Cassie and Kid Cudi, no longer together, met to discuss Cassie's former car, concerning which Combs had issued a previous threat to blow it up.
Combs Allegedly Involved With Ex Kim Porter As With Cassie
Combs' past is also explored through his relationship with Kim Porter, who is recognized as a formative figure in Combs' life. The court examined a photograph of Kim Porter alongside Combs, Cassie, and Sheri Dennis taken at the 2006 BET Awards, indirectly drawing connections between Combs' previous and then-current associations.
Porter ...
Here’s what you’ll find in our full summary
Involvement of Celebrities and Figures in Events
Additional Materials
Actionables
- Reflect on your personal relationships by journaling about the dynamics and power structures within them. Write down instances where you felt pressured or intimidated by someone else, and consider how you responded to those situations. This can help you identify patterns in your relationships and empower you to make healthier choices moving forward.
- Create a safety plan if you feel threatened in any relationship. This might include memorizing emergency contact numbers, establishing a code word with friends or family for when you need immediate help, and identifying safe places you can go to if you feel in danger. Having a plan in place can provide a sense of security and preparedness.
- Engage in open conversations with friends or fami ...
Get access to the context and additional materials
Create Summaries for anything on the web
Download the Shortform Chrome extension for your browser
