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Ruby Franke Wrote "Abuse Diary" While Posting A “Keeping Kid Safe In Predatory Society” Podcast

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The Rotten Mango podcast explores the disturbing beliefs and practices of Ruby Franke and Jodi Hildebrandt. According to the episode summary, Ruby and Jodi vehemently deny the existence of mental illnesses and promote their controversial "Connections" program, which trains women as "mental fitness trainers." The summary details how their ideology contributed to the horrific abuse and torture of Ruby's young children, who were starved, physically harmed, isolated, and subjected to crude "exorcisms" due to Ruby's belief they were possessed.

The summary also chronicles the Franke family's increasing isolation and failed attempts by the eldest child to intervene and report the abuse. As Ruby and Jodi took the younger children to remote locations, concerns mounted about the children's safety and potential for further harm.

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Ruby Franke Wrote "Abuse Diary" While Posting A “Keeping Kid Safe In Predatory Society” Podcast

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Impact of Ruby and Jodi's Beliefs on Family

Ruby Franke insists mental health disorders like anxiety and depression are mere choices, not legitimate conditions. Ruby denies her child has ADHD and dismisses emotional states like boredom as choices. Jodi Hildebrandt echoes Ruby, claiming ADHD might stem from attention-seeking behavior and that those with PTSD prefer to stay "victimized."

Ruby and Jodi promote this ideology through the "Connections" program, demanding adherence to their "principles of truth." Described as cult-like, Connections trains women as "mental fitness trainers" under Jodi's philosophy which denies mental illness. Ruby likens having a transgender family member to "contamination," raising concerns the program encourages severing family ties.

Abuse and Torture of Ruby's Youngest Children

Ruby and Jodi believed Ruby's youngest children, R and E, were demon-possessed. Ruby's journal documents horrific abuse to "expel the demons," including starvation, forced exercise, inflicting pain with cacti, humiliation, isolation, and crude "exorcisms."

As the abuse worsened, Ruby considered moving the family to secluded Arizona land to "fix the kids" and contemplated sedating R for compliance. Observers feared the children might've met a dire fate on this remote property.

Family's Isolation and Failed Intervention Attempts

Eldest child Sherry intervened after learning Kevin was ousted and barred from contacting the kids for a year. Despite Sherry reporting concerns, Ruby lashed out aggressively, threatening her. Though police investigated Sherry's claims, no intervention was possible without a warrant.

With Ruby boasting no charges, the younger kids grew increasingly isolated. The teens were often home alone, while R and E were taken by Ruby and Jodi to remote Red Rock areas, further isolating them from aid or escape. All were pulled from school and restricted from normal activities like walking the dog.

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  • Educate yourself on mental health by reading books and articles from reputable sources to understand the complexities of mental illnesses and why they are not choices. This will help you form informed opinions and challenge misconceptions you may encounter. For example, you could start with "The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression" by Andrew Solomon or "An Unquiet Mind" by Kay Redfield Jamison to gain insight into depression and bipolar disorder.
  • Volunteer with organizations that support individuals with mental health issues to gain firsthand experience and contribute positively. By working with groups like the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) or local mental health charities, you can help create supportive environments and learn how to advocate for those affected by mental health disorders.
  • Start a peer support group in your community to provide a safe space for sharing experiences and coping strategies related to mental health. This could be as simple as organizing a monthly meet-up at a community center or library where people can come together to discuss their challenges and support each other in a non-judgmental setting.

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Impact of Ruby and Jodi's Beliefs on Family

Ruby and Jodi have sparked concern with their unconventional views on mental health, influencing their own families and those who follow their "Connections" program.

Ruby and Jodi Reject Mainstream Mental Health Concepts

Ruby insists that mental health disorders that seemingly rob people of agency are not legitimate. She claims anxiety and depression are choices rather than medical conditions. Furthering this perspective, Ruby talks about one of her children she believes has ADHD but dismisses the condition as nonexistent. She labels what others might see as symptoms of ADHD as extreme irresponsibility or manipulation. Ruby also suggests that feelings like boredom and nervousness are choices, undermining the validity of certain emotional states.

Jodi Hildebrandt echoes similar sentiments. In a Zoom meeting for Connections, she dismisses ADHD, suggesting it might be attention-seeking behavior. She posits that some individuals with PTSD might not want to heal, preferring to stay victimized for the attention. Jodi accuses those claiming to have PTSD of engaging in self-deception and staying delusional by holding onto trauma.

"Connections" Program by Ruby and Jodi Spreads Controlling Ideology

Ruby Franke and Jodi Hildebrandt promote their ideology through the "Connections" program. Ruby, in her videos, emphasizes that she and Jodi teach "principles of truth" and demands adherence to their teachings without the influence of opinions or political correctness. Ruby and Jodi use buzzwords like "truth" and "distortion," and within their framework in Connections, mental illness is denied.

Jodi, who created Connections, trains women to become "mental fitness trainers" under her philosophy. This program is described as cult-like by critic Stephanie Soo.

Ruby hosts the Connections podcast, which ostensibly aims to help listeners find joy in their relationships. She underscores the need to confront family issues head-on and implies that families should not ignore problematic behavior for the sake of preserving relationships. However, Ruby compares the influence of having a transgender family member to contamination, suggesting her program demands strict adherence to certain ideologies and may encourage avoidance or exclusion of diverse family members.

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  • Ruby and Jodi reject mainstream mental health concepts, believing that conditions like anxiety, depression, and ADHD are choices rather than medical conditions. They suggest that individuals with PTSD may not want to heal and accuse them of self-deception. Their views undermine the validity of certain emotional states and promote a controversial perspective on mental health.
  • The "Connections" program, led by Ruby Franke and Jodi Hildebrandt, promotes unconventional beliefs about mental health, suggesting that conditions like ADHD and PTSD may not be real. They advocate for their followers to reject mainstream mental health concepts and adhere strictly to their teachings, which are characterized by a focus on what they call "principles of truth." The program has faced criticism for its controlling nature and the potential impact it may have on family relationships, with concerns raised about followers cutting off contact with loved ones based on the program's teachings. Jodi trains individuals to become "mental fitness trainers" under her philosophy, which has been described as cult-like by some critics.
  • Ruby and Jodi's ideology and program have faced criticism for denying mainstream mental health concepts, such as dismissing mental health disorders as choices rather than medical conditions. Concerns have been raised about the controlling nature of their "Connections" program, with accusations of promoting a cult-like environment and potentially leading followers to cut off contact with family members. Critics have highlighted instances where individuals felt pressured to conform to strict ideologies, leading to exclusion of diverse family members and strained relationships. Additionally, th ...

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Abuse and Torture of Ruby's Youngest Children

Ruby Franke and Jodi Hildebrandt subjected two of Ruby’s children to severe abuse, believing them to be demon-possessed.

Ruby and Jodi Believe Ruby's Youngest Kids, R and E, Are Demon-Possessed

Ruby and Jodi considered Ruby's youngest children, identified as R and E, to be possessed by demonic entities. They believed that only through extreme punishment could the so-called demons be expelled.

Ruby's Journal Entries Describe Abuse: Starvation, Forced Exercise, Cactus-Inflicted Pain

Ruby's journal entries detail a harrowing account of abusive tactics used on R and E, including starvation, forced standing and exercise, multiple forms of physical pain, and humiliation. She referred to R's attempt to steal water as an act brought on by demonic possession and expressed her intent to battle this so-called demon with the power of God.

Ruby recorded incidents such as using a cactus poker to poke the children, ignoring R's lack of reaction as a sign of a trance. When Jodi slapped R in an attempt to "wake him up," it was under the belief that this would counteract the possessions.

Children Endure Humiliation, Isolation, and "Exorcisms"

The treatment of R and E went beyond physical abuse to include acts of humiliation and isolation that can be likened to crude forms of exorcism. Ruby documented various methods used to demean the children, including removing their experiences of comfort and dismissing their expressions of pain as deceptive. They were shaved, doused with water, and forced back to work immediately afterward.

Ruby questioned R's lack of enjoyment in rugged conditions and interpreted his need for affection as allegiance to evil, suggesting emotional distress and further isolating him.

Ruby and Jodi's Abuse Worsens as They Consider Extreme Measures to "Save" Children

The severity of Ruby and Jodi's tactics intensified as they contemplated more drastic actions to "cure" R and E of their alleged possession.

Plan to Move Family To Arizona For Torture and Control

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  • Educate yourself on the signs of child abuse and neglect to better recognize and report any suspicions you might have about the welfare of a child in your community. You can start by taking a free online course or attending a webinar offered by child welfare organizations, which will equip you with the knowledge to identify and act upon potential abuse cases responsibly.
  • Develop a personal code of ethics regarding the treatment of children, which includes principles of respect, empathy, and non-violence. Write down your values and how they apply to interactions with children, whether they're your own, those in your extended family, or kids you may work with or encounter. This exercise reinforces positive behavior and prepares you to act as a role model for others.
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Family's Isolation and Failed Intervention Attempts

The family's struggles are intensifying due to isolation and manipulation, leaving outside observers concerned and frustrated by their inability to help.

Sherry Intervenes For Help, but Faces Ruby's Hostility and Threats

Sherry, the eldest child, now in college and not living at home, becomes alarmed after learning from her father, Kevin, that he has been ousted from the house on Ruby's demands, with instructions not to contact the kids for a year. Attempting to reach out to Kevin is futile, as he ignores and eventually blocks Sherry, even avoiding her in person.

When Sherry raises the alarm about the situation at home, Ruby lashes out, accusing her of causing chaos and deterring the efforts of the younger siblings to see Sherry in a positive light. Ruby takes Sherry's claims of abuse personally, deeming them a lie that inflicts pain, and believes Sherry has harbored animosity towards her from a young age.

After Sherry reports her concerns to Springville police, an irate Ruby confronts her, accusing her of betrayal and causing fear among the younger siblings. Despite Ruby's outward aggression, authorities struggle to act due to legal limitations, unable to secure the necessary warrant to intervene.

Despite an investigation by the police and CPS, spurred by Sherry's call, the authorities are unable to proceed without a warrant, and their hands are tied. Ruby Frankie even arrogantly boasts in an interview about the lack of charges from CPS, despite concerns being raised and investigations taking place.

Neighbors and online communities detect changes in the family dynamic, noting Kevin's withdrawal from the house and expressing anxiety over the children's well-being. Despite attempts by neighbors and Sherry to alert authorities, no significant interventions unfold, possibly due to legal barriers or successful manipulation by Ruby and Jodi.

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  • The family dynamics described involve a conflict between Ruby, the mother, and Sherry, the eldest daughter, with accusations of abuse and manipulation. Kevin, the father, is caught in the middle, facing restrictions from Ruby. The younger siblings are isolated and left vulnerable, with concerns raised by neighbors and authorities about their well-being. The family is in a state of turmoil, with failed intervention attempts due to legal limitations and manipulation by Ruby.
  • The interventions attempted in the text involve Sherry reaching out to her father, Kevin, who had been ousted from the house by Ruby. Sherry's attempts to raise concerns about the situation at home to authorities like the Springville police and CPS were met with resistance from Ruby, who accused her of betrayal. Despite these efforts, legal limitations and Ruby's manipulation hindered significant interventions from taking place.
  • Legal limitations hindering authorities in this context could include requirements for obtaining a warrant before intervening in a private residence, restrictions on removing children from their home without clear evidence of immediate danger, and the need to follow specific legal procedures to ensure the protection of individuals' rights during investigations. These limitations can sometimes delay or prevent swift action by authorities in cases where there may be concerns for the safety and well-being of individuals involved.
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