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'Hurdles in the Dark' is a memoir about a kidnapping, juvenile detention and racing

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In this episode of NPR's Book of the Day podcast, the memoir "Hurdles in the Dark" is discussed, chronicling the author's harrowing childhood experiences: a kidnapping, unwarranted juvenile detention, and sexual abuse from coaches she trusted. The episode explores how these traumatic events were pivotal in shaping her path to higher education through athletics, despite the systemic vulnerabilities faced by young minority athletes.

Now a coach herself, the author shares her mission to create a safe environment and empower young athletes, especially girls and minorities. The episode delves into the important issue of recognizing inappropriate behavior and teaching personal boundaries to prevent abuse by figures in positions of authority and trust.

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'Hurdles in the Dark' is a memoir about a kidnapping, juvenile detention and racing

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Elvira's Traumatic Childhood Experiences

Growing up in Laredo, Texas, Elvira faced immense trauma at age 14 when narcos kidnapped her mother. Elvira recounts being thrust into raising a ransom for her mother's release. The incident later caused her overwhelmed mother to call the police on Elvira, resulting in her unwarranted detention in juvenile hall.

Athletics as a Path to Higher Education

Recognizing athletics as a means to access higher education, Elvira taught herself hurdling from online videos. However, as Elvira explains, her supportive coach exploited her in "an inappropriate relationship," exemplifying the challenges young athletes face.

Sexual Abuse by Coaches

Elvira discloses her harrowing experiences of sexual abuse by not one, but two different coaches whom she had trusted as mentors. Initially remaining silent due to fear of not being believed, Elvira highlights how such abuses of power are systemic issues in coaching. Her story exposes the deep vulnerabilities faced by young minority athletes.

Elvira's Mission as a Coach

Now a coach herself, Elvira aims to create a safe, empowering environment. Drawing from her past, Elvira emphasizes teaching personal boundaries and recognizing inappropriate behavior to prevent abuse. She passionately conveys to young athletes, especially girls and minorities: "Your voices and stories matter, and you are not alone in your struggles."

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  • You can support survivors by donating to organizations that provide legal and psychological assistance to those affected by trauma and abuse. By contributing to these organizations, you help ensure that individuals like Elvira have access to the resources they need to heal and seek justice. For example, find a local nonprofit that specializes in aiding survivors of kidnapping or abuse and make a monthly donation.
  • Start a conversation with young athletes in your life about the importance of personal boundaries and recognizing inappropriate behavior. This can be as simple as having an open discussion during a car ride or while sharing a meal. Use age-appropriate language to explain what boundaries are and encourage them to speak up if they ever feel uncomfortable with someone's behavior towards them.
  • Educate yourself on the signs of power abuse in coaching and mentorship relationships. Take an online course or read articles on the topic to better understand the dynamics of these relationships. This knowledge will help you become more vigilant and proactive in your community, potentially identifying and preventing abuse before it occurs. Share this information with friends and family to spread awareness.

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Elvira's childhood experiences, including the kidnapping of her mother and her time in juvenile detention

Elvira reflects on her upbringing in Laredo, Texas, and the traumatic experience of her mother's kidnapping, which ultimately led to her unwarranted time in juvenile detention.

Elvira grew up in Laredo, Texas, a vibrant border town with a strong Mexican cultural influence

Elvira recounts her childhood in Laredo, a place where the culture was more Mexican than American. She loved the vibrant community, the Tejano culture, and the excellent food that was part of her everyday life.

As a 14-year-old, Elvira's life was upended when her mother was kidnapped by narcos, forcing Elvira to quickly raise a ransom to secure her mother's release

At the age of 14, Elvira's life dramatically changed when her mother was kidnapped by narcos during a wedding reception in Mexico, close to their home in Laredo. The shocking incident forced Elvira to mature rapidly as she was thrust into the daunting task of raising a ransom. Despite encountering reluctance from wealthier individuals, Elvira's friends and her mother's friends, even from lower-income neighborhoods, contributed to the ransom.

The traumatic kidnapping incident led to Elvira's mother becoming overwhelmed and ultimately calling the police on Elvira, resulting in Elvira being sent to juvenile detention ...

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  • Explore your local history to better understand the cultural influences in your area, much like Elvira's upbringing in Laredo. Visit a nearby historical society or museum, and take notes on any cultural nuances that stand out. This can deepen your appreciation for your community's unique background and challenges.
  • Create a personal safety net plan inspired by Elvira's experience with her mother's kidnapping. Start by listing local emergency contacts, setting up a check-in system with friends or family, and researching basic self-defense techniques. Having a plan can provide peace of mind and prepare you for unexpected situations.
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Elvira's pursuit of athletics, particularly hurdling, as a pathway to higher education

Elvira K. Gonzalez saw athletic excellence, particularly in hurdling, as her chance to pursue higher education—a dream that seemed unattainable for many within her community. Her determination and unique journey highlight not only the potential of sports as a lever for academic opportunities but also the darker challenges faced by young athletes.

Elvira recognized that excelling in athletics could provide her with a means to access higher education, which was an otherwise out-of-reach opportunity for many in her community

Elvira explained her attraction to hurdles, despite not having an initial aptitude for the sport. "I was gravitating towards that, knowing that I'm not good at it, but I think that I can. If I put my mind into it and practice, this could be my ticket to get an education and be the first one in my family to do so," she shared.

Elvira took extraordinary measures, such as breaking into her school's track at dawn and teaching herself hurdling techniques through online videos, in order to pursue her athletic aspirations

Elvira's dedication to hurdling was undeniable. She recounted, "So yeah, I would crawl up the fence and hoping I don't get caught and end up back in juvenile hall. But because it's dark, you can barely see me. So I learned to hurdle in the dark..." Her resourcefulness also led her to self-teach using available online resources, mastering the techniques one jump at a time in the shroud of dawn.

Elvira found a coach who initially seemed supportive but ultimately exploited her, exemplifying the challenges that young athletes, especially girls and people of color, ...

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  • Explore unconventional times and places for self-improvement by identifying underutilized resources in your community, such as public parks during off-peak hours, to practice a new skill like Elvira did with hurdling. You might find that a local basketball court is empty in the early mornings, making it a perfect spot to practice dribbling or shooting hoops without distractions.
  • Use free online resources to self-educate on a topic of interest, similar to how Elvira learned hurdling techniques. For instance, if you're interested in gardening, you could watch YouTube tutorials on planting techniques and then apply them in your own garden or on your balcony, starting with easy-to-grow plants like herbs or tomatoes.
  • Develop a personal code of ethics for engaging with me ...

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Elvira's experiences of sexual abuse by coaches and the challenges she faced in speaking up

Elvira K. Gonzalez bravely reveals her ordeal of sexual abuse by two trusted coaches as a teenager and discusses the harrowing challenges she faced in speaking up.

Elvira suffered sexual abuse from not one, but two different coaches who she had trusted as mentors

Elvira shares a traumatic part of her past, confiding that she was sexually abused by not one, but two coaches during her adolescent years. These individuals, whom she had looked up to as mentors and leaders in her community, betrayed her trust in the most egregious manner. Elvira recounts that other young girls suffered abuse by one of the coaches, pointing to a disturbing pattern of behavior and a culture of abuse within the athletics domain.

Elvira initially remained silent about the abuse, fearing that no one would believe her or that speaking out would jeopardize her athletic opportunities

The scars of abuse run deep, and Elvira's silence at the time reflects the immense fear and doubt victims often feel. Elvira herself admits that she felt voiceless and powerless, overwhelmed by the belief that her allegations against such well-regarded figures in the community would fall on deaf ears. The potential ramifications on her future loomed large in her mind. Elvira saw her athletic career as her "ticket to freedom," and she grappled with the notion that coming forward with her experience could rob her of this escape and the opportunities that lay ahead.

Elvira's experiences of sexual abuse as a young, Latina athlete highlight the broader ...

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  • You can create a safe space for sharing by starting a peer support group in your community. Gather a small group of individuals who have shared similar experiences and meet regularly to provide mutual support. This can be done by renting a local community room or even hosting virtual meetings to ensure accessibility for all participants. The key is to establish ground rules that prioritize confidentiality, respect, and non-judgmental listening.
  • Develop a personal code of conduct for interactions in athletic or coaching environments. This code should include clear boundaries, such as never being alone in a room with a coach, always having a buddy system, and knowing who to contact if something feels wrong. Share this code with peers and encourage them to adopt or adapt it for their own use, fostering a culture of safety and accountability.
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Elvira's current work as a coach and the lessons she wants to impart to young athletes, especially girls and people of color

Elvira K. Gonzalez, drawing upon her traumatic experiences, has committed herself to coaching with a mission to foster a secure and empowering atmosphere for her young trainees.

Drawing on her own traumatic experiences, Elvira now works as a coach, dedicated to creating a safe and empowering environment for the young athletes she mentors

Elvira K. Gonzalez understands the complexities and dangers lurking in sports coaching, especially the commonplace incidents of sexual abuse. From her personal experiences and from the disturbing stories shared by her athletes, Gonzalez has recognized the critical need for safe spaces in sports.

Elvira places a strong emphasis on teaching her athletes about personal boundaries and recognizing the signs of inappropriate behavior, seeking to prevent the kinds of abuses she endured as a young athlete

To combat these issues, Gonzalez diligently instructs her athletes about personal boundaries and how to detect signs of inappropriate behavior. These lessons are a pillar of her coaching philosophy, aiming to prevent the abuse she and others have suffered.

Elvira's ultimate message to young athletes, especially girls and people of color, is that their voices and stories matter, and that they are not alone in their struggles

Gonzalez passionately conveys to her athletes, particular ...

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  • You can start a personal journal to document your experiences and feelings in sports or any team environment, focusing on moments where you felt empowered or disempowered. This practice will help you become more aware of your boundaries and the dynamics of your interactions with others. For example, after each game or practice, write down any instances where you felt your voice was particularly valued or overlooked, and reflect on how you responded and what you could do to reinforce your boundaries.
  • Create a small support group with peers where you can share stories and discuss personal growth challenges. This could be as simple as a monthly meet-up at a local café or a group chat online. The key is to ensure it's a safe space where everyone feels comfortable sharing. For instance, each member could take turns discussing a challenge they've faced and the group can brainstorm ways to overcome similar situations in the future.
  • Volunteer to mentor a younger athlete or so ...

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