In the latest episode of "Dumb Blonde," host Bunnie DeFord invites Renee Graziano to share the account of her tumultuous life journey, detailing her battles both in her personal life and as a cast member of the reality TV show "Mob Wives." From the harrowing tales of childhood abuse at the hands of her sisters to the depths of addiction and near-death experiences, Renee bravely opens up about the adversities that have shaped her.
The conversation delves into the intense behind-the-scenes dynamics of "Mob Wives," Renee's difficult relationships, and the earth-shattering betrayal by her ex-husband who turned informant against her father. Yet, amidst the darkness, Renee illuminates her formidable steps toward healing, sobriety, and her newfound mission in the world of addiction treatment. This episode of "Dumb Blonde" offers a raw and compelling glimpse into Renee Graziano's incredible story of resilience and redemption.
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Renee shares her chilling experiences of abuse inflicted by her sisters during her childhood. Her sisters not only exposed her to dangerous physical activities but also subjected her to severe emotional harms by bullying her, with insults like calling her "ugly" and "dumb." Their bullying escalated to physically harmful attempts, including trying to hang Renee with a jump rope and convincing her to jump off stairs with a leash around her neck, risking severe injury or death.
Renee's addiction began in her teenage years, starting with experimenting with drugs like mescaline, black beauties, and yellow jackets, and escalating to cocaine by age 15. Post back surgery, she developed a painkiller addiction which led to a near-fatal overdose, resulting in a 72-hour hold in a mental hospital where she was sexually assaulted. Renee then struggled with a severe Xanax addiction, often mixing it with alcohol and cocaine. She experienced an accidental fentanyl overdose that left her intubated and forced her to relearn to walk.
On the reality TV show "Mob Wives," Renee faced turmoil driven by jealousy and competition among cast members, including conflicts over prominence and entitlement. The competition was intense as every cast member fought for the spotlight, but Renee felt her background was inimitable. Additionally, tensions were exacerbated because of VH1's issues with a particular cast member. Renee also hints at a broken friendship with a cast member, driven by jealousy and a hunger for power.
Renee discloses her early abusive relationship with a boyfriend who physically assaulted her, leading to her father's retaliative violence. In her marriage to Hector, she suffered horrific abuses, including physical violence which escalated even during her pregnancy, and sexual assault, which she later understood to be rape. Hector's infidelity added to the betrayal, which reached a peak when he became an informant against her father.
Renee discusses the betrayal by her ex-husband, Hector, who turned informant against her father, breaking the trust both in their marriage and with her father who had embraced Hector fully. The revelation left Renee feeling as though her identity was erased. Hector's actions led to Renee's father's re-arrest and profoundly impacted her life and the security she had known.
Renee talks about the devastating impact of her father's death, which pushed her into a deeper addiction. Her grief led to attempts at relief through treatments like shock therapy, which she feels worsened her condition, and self-medication. The death of her father was a significant trauma that Renee grappled with while dealing with addiction.
In her path to sobriety, Renee cites the need to get sober for her son and grandchildren as a key driving force. She has taken up work in addiction treatment, aiming to provide the care and love she felt was missing in her own life. This focus on helping others and rebuilding her family life, reinvesting in relationships with her son and grandchildren, underscores her healing process. Her improved familial connections and her employment at Vanity Wellness showcase her dedication to a healthier way of life, as she reconstructs her identity around love and perhaps, future romance.
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Renee opens up about her harrowing experiences in her early years, detailing the abuse she suffered at the hands of those closest to her.
Renee recounts that her sister, Lana, who often got into trouble and was hit a lot for her misbehavior, would subject Renee to risky situations. Lana's reckless actions included dangerous behavior such as flipping cars, and she also coerced Renee into physically dangerous acts like swinging off banisters.
In addition to the perilous activities, Renee shares how her sisters inflicted emotional pain by bullying her. One sister would denigrate her by calling her "ugly," while another would insult her intelligence by calling her "dumb."
Renee's sisters went beyond verbal taunts to physical a ...
Renee's traumatic childhood
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Renee Graziano openly reveals the extent and severity of her drug addiction, including overdoses and resulting challenges. Her journey through addiction is marked by early drug use, a dire dependence on painkillers, and a severe Xanax addiction, all of which led to multiple overdoses and significant consequences.
Renee Graziano's struggles with substance abuse began early. At about 13 years old, she tried mescaline, an experience so disagreeable it led her to hide away in a closet. She quickly advanced to black beauties and yellow jackets, which are types of uppers or diet pills known to be used as a means to boost energy and suppress appetite. By the age of 14 and 15, Renee's drug use escalated to cocaine.
As a teenager, Renee dated a drug dealer in secret. Her father, unaware of her boyfriend's age and illicit activities, would not have approved of their relationship.
After back surgery, Renee developed an addiction to painkillers. On July 4th, 2007, her substance use culminated in an overdose. Renee describes her behavior during this episode as that of a "wild lunatic." Her mother, embarrassed and perhaps lacking a full understanding of addiction, opted to place Renee in a 72-hour holdover in a mental hospital rather than a detox facility.
During her stay in the mental hospital, Renee was subjected to sexual assault by a man named Stanley Guido. Her initial pleas for help following the incident were not believed until, in a desperate bid for help, she set a fire to attract police attention. When authorities arrived, the man confessed to the assault.
Following her traumatic experience in the mental hospital, Renee's addiction shifted focus to Xanax, an anti-anxiety medication. She describes this addiction as different, consuming the drug incessantly resulting in emotional numbness and inhibited thought processes.
Renee's struggles with addiction and overdoses
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Renee Graziano opens up about the turmoil and emotions that ran high behind the scenes of the reality TV show "Mob Wives," including conflicts driven by jealousy and competition.
The cast members of "Mob Wives" struggled with envy, often clashing over money, attention, and the number of appearances on the show. Renee Graziano shares that her co-stars envied her background as a mob boss's daughter and her prominent role on the show. She candidly admits that jealousy affected her when her castmates received opportunities she did not. Everyone fought to be a star, but as Graziano quips, not everyone can be the North Star.
Graziano observes that the competition between the women was unnecessary, as no one could duplicate her unique upbringing and background. Despite the special dynamic among the women, VH1's dissatisfaction with one of the cast members, presumably Drita, heightened tensions. This dissatisfaction stemmed from an attitude of entitlement and overblown expectations, such as discontent over being sent an Uber rather than a black car.
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Behind-the-scenes drama of Mob Wives reality show
Renee Graziano candidly recounts her history of abusive relationships, including a childhood boyfriend and a marriage marked by distressing violence, infidelity, and betrayal.
Though not explicitly mentioned in the provided transcript, Renee Graziano discusses her first boyfriend at the age of 13. She recalls an incident where her then-boyfriend, Frank, inflicted a stab wound to her leg with a fork out of jealousy. Her father, upon noticing a black eye and learning of the boyfriend's abuse, retaliated, resulting in the boyfriend's arm being broken. The scars, both physical and emotional, from this early abuse linger with Graziano, prompting a distrust in relationships and complicating her dating life.
Renee reflects on her marriage to a man she derogatorily refers to as Hector, detailing the spectrum of abuse she suffered at his hands. She conveys the horrific physical, emotional, and sexual abuse she endured, including being compared to other women when Hector was drunk and high. Graziano relays severe injuries she sustained, such as a shattered coccyx bone, a cracked rib, a punctured kidney, and a broken cheekbone.
Even during her pregnancy, Hector's evil extended to a hospital stay where she was so traumatized that her body shut down, and afterward, he coldly made her take a cab home. Another instance of physical violence involved Hector taking her by the throat and dangling her out in the street.
Renee was subjected to sexual abuse, admitting that she did not initially understand the criminal nature of being sexually forced by one's husband—an act later identified by her therapist as rape.
During their marriage, Hector was unfaithful, having multiple affairs. Graziano speaks about one of her husband's ...
Renee's abusive relationships and marriages
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Renee Graziano shares her traumatic experience with her ex-husband Hector, whom she vehemently despises for becoming a government informant against her father and destroying her family and sense of self.
Renee's father, initially unaware of Hector's ethnicity, warmly embraced Hector as a part of the family, even giving him the nickname "Junior" and planning to offer him their illustrious family name. This indicated full acceptance, not only into the family but into the crime family as well. Renee describes her father as deeply loving Hector, showcasing the gravity of the eventual betrayal.
The profound discovery that Hector had been cooperating with the government since 2006 came as a shock to Renee. She recalls the pivotal moment when he turned himself in, leading to her father's arrest, which caused Renee to feel that her "whole life ended" and her identity was "wiped."
Renee's disdain for her ex-husband is palpable as she attributes her father's re-arrest before Thanksgiving to her ex-husband's actions. Hector's cooperation not only led to her father being put behind bars—effectively rendering him 'killed' in Renee's eyes—but also left her vulnerable without the prote ...
Renee's ex-husband becoming an informant against her father
Renee Graziano opens up about the profound loss of her father, Anthony Graziano, and its cascading effects on her life as she approaches the difficult milestone of the five-year anniversary of his passing.
Renee Graziano reveals the depth of her sorrow following her father's death, admitting that she desired to end her life during that period. This admission underscores how deeply the loss affected her, exacerbating her struggles with addiction. Renee further intimates the challenges she faced with insomnia and hospitalization, which she links to the lifestyle of waiting for her father, signaling the gripping grief that likely intensified her addiction.
Renee speaks candidly about her experience with shock therapy, having undergone six sessions in an attempt to mitigate her grief and addiction. However, she believes this treatment aggravated her condition and caused significant damage to her brain, leaving her to contend with worsened addiction. She asserts that she experienced memory loss and a dulled intellect as side effects of the shoc ...
The death of Renee's father and its impact
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Renee Graziano, in conversation with the host Bunnie DeFord, opens up about her personal battles with addiction, her road to recovery, and the importance of family in her journey to sobriety.
Renee's motivation to attain sobriety was deeply rooted in her commitment to her family. She acknowledges the significant role addiction played in her life, influenced by her upbringing and family circumstances. The turning point came when Renee decided to protect herself and her son, which involved making her ex-husband's threats public on the show. Her determination saw her through a phase where her friend Karen played a crucial role by providing a haven for Renee to stay and attain sobriety.
Her path to healing involved not only working on her sobriety but also in giving back to others who were struggling with their own addictions. Renee started working in addiction treatment, dedicating herself to help others feel special and loved, a mission stemmed from her own experiences of dealing with the 'hole in their soul.' Despite experiencing a relapse triggered by unresolved issues brought up during her own pilot for "Fairy Mob Mother," Renee redirected her focus on helping someone else obtain sobriety and cherishing her time with her four grandchildren.
Renee's journey to sobriety has seen her rebuild and strengthen familial bonds. She recognizes the significance of being present for her son and grandchildren, underlying her sobriety since November 3rd. With a renewed dedication to living, Renee reassured her son she wouldn't harm herself and sought help when necessary. Her current employment at Vanity Wellness in California, following her time at Recovery Unplugged in Texas, is part of her commitment to her new lifestyle.
Renee reveals her newfound source of love in her grandchildren. She finds joy in playing superhero and engaging in activities with them, which has allowed her ...
Renee's journey to sobriety and healing trauma
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