9. Reset Your Lack of Self Trust & Abandon Self Doubt

Self-trust is a fundamental aspect of a fulfilling life. However, it is often lost due to the influence of others' opinions and judgments.

We are born with the innate ability to trust ourselves, but it can be lost by deferring to others' opinions and judgments.

The host explains that being born into life trusting oneself is a natural state. If individuals struggle with self-trust, it is a learned behavior, possibly because they have been conditioned to believe it is safer not to trust themselves. Leo Skepi discusses how individuals begin to live by the limitations and beliefs projected upon them, such as children learning to suppress emotions like anger or sadness due to their parents' teachings. This affects their ability to handle these emotions as adults. "Do not put your experience in someone else's hands," emphasizes the host.

Trusting our inner guidance system, such as our thoughts, emotions, and desires, is critical for living an authentic and fulfilling life.

The host discusses how we may hand our thoughts, emotions, desires, and values to others if we do not know how to address them. Seeking guidance or advice from others can result in tampering with our guidance system, compromising our self-trust. Skepi highlights the importance of acknowledging emotions as part of one's internal guide rather than suppressing them. Aligning with one's inner feelings is crucial for authenticity.

Over time, we learn to hand over our decision-making power to others, allowing their beliefs and limitations to shape our own self-perception and behavior.

Skepi shares his personal experience of feeling trapped by following the guidance of those around him rather than trusting his instincts, which led him to a career in nursing. However, recognizing his desire for more resulted in a successful venture in social media and podcasting. Understanding why we are bothered by something and what our internal guidance system is making us aware of is a critical part of re-aligning with our true selves.

Relying on others' advice can prevent us from achieving our full potential and lead to a passive, limited existence.

Skepi points out that by deferring to others for guidance, individuals can adopt external thoughts and ways of living, leading to a passive existence where their potential is unfulfilled. Prioritizing other people's opinions can result in living a limited li ...

In the quest to rebuild self-trust, we explore strategies to embrace resilience and foster personal growth by reflecting on experiences, establishing boundaries, and honoring our intuition.

Avoid self-criticism and instead focus on understanding the lessons from your experiences, both positive and negative.

Self-compassion is key. When encountering a mistake or an unwanted outcome, Leo Skepi emphasizes the importance of reflection over self-attack. It's about focusing on potential improvements or lessons learned rather than indulging in negative self-talk. Skepi advises making amends for any harm caused but cautions against self-flagellation. Instead, he suggests committing to doing better in the future. “If you fuck up, you got to make up for it. Always, always prove it to yourself and do that for yourself,” he asserts.

Establish clear standards and boundaries for yourself and others, and honor them.

Creating and maintaining personal standards is a critical step in rebuilding self-trust. Skepi reflects on the importance of not convincing oneself to be okay with situations that are not acceptable, underscoring the necessity of staying true to one's standards in relationships. He views standards as protectors from undesirable experiences and relationships, insisting that it's not offensive to maintain high standards—it's just a matter of personal preference. Skepi stresses the significance of respecting one's boundaries: "If you're not going to do it, don't commit to it. So either don't commit to it or do it 100%."

Starting the day focused on oneself is equally important. Skepi hints at the need to ensure one's own well-being before attempting to assist others and the significance of prioritizing one's needs and desires. "The first 20 minutes of your day being for you is the prioritization aspect. Absolutely you need to do it," Skepi states. He suggests engaging in activities like taking a bath, journaling, or reading to signify to oneself and others that one's attention is valuable.

Trust your intuition and be willing to take risks, even if others don't understand or approve.

Trusting one's intuition, even in the face of skepticism or disapproval from others, is a vital component of self-trust. Skepi shares personal experiences to ill ...