Relationships

It’s great if you find someone you want to spend your life with—but what if you aren’t sure that this person is the one? How do you know when your relationship is over? Staying in a relationship that’s no longer working for you is the direct route to unhappiness. On the other hand, ending a relationship prematurely because the initial high has worn off is also not a good idea. In this article, we’ll discuss the challenges of ending a relationship and how to make that process as painless as possible—if you decide that’s the right thing to do.

Do you lack confidence in dating? Why is it a bad idea to delay serious dating? Some people want to date, but they don’t feel confident enough to start doing it. They repeatedly insist that they’ll start dating when X or Y happens—whether X is financial stability or a better haircut. Dating coach Logan Ury refers to such people as “hesitators.” Here’s why delaying dating is a bad idea, according to Logan Ury.

Why do so many people end up in suboptimal relationships? What qualities should you look for in a potential partner to maximize your chances of having the relationship you want? There are two reasons people struggle to look for the right qualities in a romantic partner. First, we tend to prioritize immediate benefits over future benefits. Second, we assume that whatever gets our attention is more important than what doesn’t. When dating, these tendencies make us pursue the wrong people. Here’s what to look for in a relationship to increase your chances of finding a long-term partner.

Do people with similar personalities get along? Why is it a bad idea to date someone similar to you in every way? Dating someone just like you may seem like a good idea, but it’s not. A relationship between similar personalities has no room for growth. Instead, you should look for someone who has a complementary personality—similar enough to get along yet different enough to challenge you. Here’s why dating your like is a bad idea.

What is your approach to dating? Are you the kind of person who is easily swept off your feet? Or do you approach dating strategically, trying to keep a cool head? According to dating coach Logan Ury, there are three “dating tendencies” or patterns people have: maximizers, romanticizers, and hesitaters. In her book How to Not Die Alone, she explains how each pattern leads to unhappiness—and how to prevent your own pattern from sabotaging your dating life. Keep reading to learn about the three unhealthy dating patterns that people fall into when looking for love.