Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson—Book Overview & Lessons

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Do you feel heard in your relationship? Do most conversations devolve into fights? Are you almost ready to give up? When you’re in a struggling romantic relationship, you may feel like it’s impossible to fix. But clinical psychologist Sue Johnson says you don’t need to give up yet. In Hold Me Tight, she offers a roadmap for healing your relationship so you and your partner can communicate healthily, resolve conflicts, and grow close once again. Continue reading for an overview of Hold Me Tight, including actionable advice for repairing your relationship.

What Is the Let Them Theory? The Secret to Letting Go

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Do you often feel like you’re wasting energy on things? What is the Let Them Theory? Mel Robbins’s Let Them Theory teaches us to detach from situations and behaviors that are outside our sphere of influence. It involves shifting your mindset to take control of what you do and how you spend your time and energy. If you want to put your energy in the right place, read more about Robbins’s theory below.

How to Take Accountability in Relationships (Mel Robbins)

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Do you want to know how to take accountability in relationships? How can you adapt to ever-changing friendships over time? Although relationships involve multiple people, it’s ultimately up to you to create the relationships you want in your life. Mel Robbins uses the Let Them Theory to show a way you can both release control and set boundaries in romantic and platonic relationships. Get ready to build the relationships you deserve by using the simple phrases, “Let Them” and “Let Me.”

How to Be Emotionally Mature: Don’t React Like a Child

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Do you want to be more emotionally mature? Do you worry about other people’s emotional reactions to you? In the same way managing other people’s negative opinions isn’t your responsibility, it’s also not your responsibility to manage other people’s emotional reactions, says Mel Robbins in her book The Let Them Theory. While they might act emotionally immature, there’s a chance you might also be the one who needs to manage your emotions better. Learn how to be emotionally mature so you can let go of how other people react to you.

How to Have a Happy and Healthy Relationship With Yourself

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Are you ready to love yourself like you deserve? What does it mean to have a healthy relationship with yourself? In The Let Them Theory, Mel Robbins explains that you can use the Let Them Theory to improve the relationship you have with yourself. She notes that you are the only person that you’re guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with, and you owe it to yourself to make your happiness and dreams a priority. If you’re ready to build the best relationship with yourself, keep reading.

How to Use the Let Them Theory: The 2-Step Process

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Do you know what the Let Them Theory is? How can you apply the theory in all areas of your life? Having a deep need to control is an exercise in futility that only makes us frustrated and anxious and sets us up for conflict with the people in our lives. Mel Robbins contends that we need to shift our mindsets so we can stop wasting energy trying to control other people by using the Let Them Theory. To learn how to use the Let Them Theory, read below for the two-step process.

Latent Content of Dreams: Freud’s Theory & Common Desires

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Why do people so often dream about sex? Have you ever wondered why certain images and scenarios appear in your dreams? In The Interpretation of Dreams, Sigmund Freud explains manifest and latent content of dreams. He contends that dreams aren’t random—they’re coded messages from our unconscious mind revealing our deepest desires and unresolved conflicts. Keep reading to learn how childhood experiences shape your dreams and why sexual symbolism appears so frequently.

The Imporance of Creative Collaboration, From Mentors to Partners

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In what ways can creative collaboration be beneficial? What are the different types of creative relationships? In Creative Quest, Questlove encourages you to not only spend time with other creators but to work directly with them. He recommends working alongside other creative people in two ways: finding mentors who can teach you basic skills and partnering with other artists on joint projects. Here’s a look at each recommendation in detail.

How to Be Successful in Love: The Math of “Happy Ever After”

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What actually makes relationships last? Is traditional dating advice steering you in the wrong direction? In his book Don’t Trust Your Gut, Seth Stephens-Davidowitz reveals surprising data about how to be successful in love. His research shows that conventional attractiveness has little impact on relationship longevity, and he shares what makes you four times more likely to find lasting love. Keep reading to discover what you can do to transform your romantic future.

Seth Stephens-Davidowitz: Dating Data Can Boost Your Chances

Seth Stephens-Davidowitz: Dating Data Can Boost Your Chances

Is finding the right partner online a numbers game? What factors truly matter in the dating marketplace? The book Don’t Trust Your Gut reveals fascinating data on what people look for in romantic partners. Seth Stephens-Davidowitz’s dating research shows that, while physical appearance plays a major role (especially for women), men’s dating success depends on various factors. Keep reading to learn how you can use data to improve your dating prospects and overcome biases in the online dating world.