The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down: Overview

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Do you feel constantly busy and struggle to take time to rest? What is the value of slowing down? How can you practice slowing down? In The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, a book by Zen Buddhist teacher Haemin Sunim, you’ll learn how embracing slowness can lead to increased self-awareness and contentment. He shares practices that encourage you to slow down, forge deeper connections, and enhance your well-being. Keep reading for an overview of the book and its principles.

3 Relationship Regrets People Have at the End of Their Lives

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Do you make an effort to keep in contact with your friends? Do you often put work before your family? Do you talk openly about your feelings? The book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying says that relationship regrets are common among the dying. Specifically, people regret putting work ahead of loved ones, not sharing their emotions, and losing touch with their friends. Here’s what you can do to avoid this common regret.

Feel Like You’re Always Busy? Here’s How to Escape the Chaos

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Why does it feel like we’re always busy? How can you slow down in a fast-paced world? In Zen Buddhist teacher Haemin Sunim’s book, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, he explains why people today feel overwhelmed by busyness. If you want to feel less busy, you need to change your perspective and stop blaming society. Here’s Sunim’s advice for slowing down in a fast-paced society.

How Working Too Much Affects Your Relationships

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Do you feel like you’re working too much? Do you often work rather than spend time with loved ones? Bronnie Ware, a palliative care nurse, shares that one common deathbed regret her patients had is that they prioritized work instead of relationships. Finding a work-life balance is imperative for your happiness and the happiness of those around you. Here’s what the dying had to say about their relationships with work.

How to Slow Down in Life: Advice From a Zen Buddhist

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Do you want to know how to slow down in life? How can you commit to a mindfulness practice? In his book The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, Zen Buddhist teacher Haemin Sunim says mindfulness is an essential tool for slowing down. You must acknowledge that you can’t change external circumstances but you can control your internal responses. Here’s how to slow down and start living in the moment.

The 4 Benefits of Slowing Down: What You’ll Begin to See

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What are the benefits of slowing down in life? What do relationships have to do with mindfulness? In his book, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, Haemin Sunim explains how when you use mindfulness, you begin to see things that were invisible before. In slowing down, you start to fully appreciate what matters in life. Here’s a look at the things you’ll start to see once you slow down in life.

Why Hiding Your Emotions Will Hurt Your Relationships

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Do you often hide your emotions and feelings from others? Why should you start opening up to your loved ones? One of the top regrets of the dying is that they weren’t more open about their feelings. When you try to hide your emotions from others, you’re not allowing them to know the true you. Here’s why you should be more open with your friends and family, from the book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

You Should Make an Effort Not to Lose Touch With Friends

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Have you lost touch with your friends? Why should you try to maintain your friendships? In her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, one common deathbed regret that patients expressed was that they didn’t make an effort to maintain their friendships. While family feel obligated to visit you, real friends are invaluable in life. Here’s why you should put in effort to keep your friends.

How to Live Authentically: 3 Tips for Finding the Courage

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Do you want to live an authentic life? How can you muster up the courage to do so? Palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware writes in her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying that a lot of courage is required to live without regrets. She shares three tips for how to live authentically and regret-free. Below are Ware’s three tips for finding the courage to live authentically.

Why Accepting Death as a Part of Life Will Make You Happier

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Why is it important to accept death as a part of life? How can facing your mortality make you happier? While it may feel uncomfortable to acknowledge, you will die one day and that’s a fact. Rather than living your life in fear of death, it’s healthier to accept that death is natural and to live life in a way that will leave you regret-free. Here’s what palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware has to say about accepting death.